Hanging with a new vina over a long stem glass or a frothy mug can admittedly feel a lot like a first date: exciting, a little awkward, and completely new territory. The good news is that means the topics are wide open! It’s important to remember that you’re both in the same boat in terms of making new friends, so don’t sweat the nerves. That’s totally normal! That being said, if you’re not so quick on your feet, or having some trouble coming up with a fresh topic, here are 10 questions that are a sure-fire way to get the conversation flowing!
WHY DID YOU DOWNLOAD HEY! VINA?
Finding out what motived her to try out the app is a good start to get some background info without getting too personal too quick. Maybe she was looking for a fresh circle of friends, or maybe she just moved into town and hasn’t had time to strike up any close friendships yet. This Q will get you both talking about your friendship styles, current circles, and what you hoped to get out of the app.
WHAT WAS THE LAST SHOW YOU BINGE-WATCHED?
While years ago, everyone was talking about the biggest blockbuster, 2018 is all about the best series to binge-watch. Your vina is bound to have an opinion on the latest and greatest cliff-hangers or plot twists. This is also a great way to find out more about your compatibility between interests. Are you both into crime scene dramas? Or still wiping the tears away over Marisa Cooper’s death circa 2004? This is a topic that will have you and your vinas gabbing like besties in minutes.
IF YOU COULD GO BACK 10 YEARS AND TELL YOURSELF ONE THING, WHAT WOULD IT BE?
As humans, we are always growing and learning, especially from our own mistakes. This question breaks down a thin wall that touches on a personal level but doesn’t ask too much. And hey, you might even learn a little lesson yourself!
BEACHSIDE CABANA OR SKI LODGE?
Who doesn’t love to talk about their favorite vacays? You two can chat about the fruity drink you’d enjoy poolside, or the mountain you’re dying to test your snowboard on. It’ll also give insight to future vina vacations you can plan—hello, 2019 fun!
WHAT ARE YOUR HOBBIES?
This may seem like an obvious one, but hear me out. Hobbies don’t just pertain to sports and literature; a hobby can be anything you enjoy and find relaxation or fulfillment in. This question opens up the realm of what you two might have in common, and what potential second and third hangouts could entail. Talking about your own hobbies first can often lighten the pressure for the other person to feel justified in what they enjoy.
WHAT’S YOUR INSTA HANDLE?
Getting connected on social media platforms makes it easier and more natural to develop a friendship with someone you meet online. Asking for your vina’s Instagram allows you to keep up with their interests, engage in comments, and get to know their lifestyle. Plus, when you see a funny @vinazine post, you can tag her!
YOUR HOUSE GOES UP IN FLAMES, AND YOU ONLY HAVE TIME TO GRAB ONE THING (BESIDES ANYTHING WITH A HEARTBEAT). WHAT IS IT?
This one will help you get to know what is important to your vina, and could possibly even pave the way for some really good stories. A conversation is a trail that is meant to lead you in completely unrelated directions, so get creative! If something they say sparks a thought in your head, even if it’s a whole new topic, roll with it.
WHO’S YOUR FAVORITE SINGER?
Vinas, whip out your Spotify and get to work. Music is super essential in a new friendship. Maybe you’ll end up at all the must-see concerts of the season together (hey, T. Swift), or maybe you’ll be introduced to a new band you’re going to become obsessed with.
This is always a fun little icebreaker that gets people laughing…or blushing. Rules are simple: You and your vina get to ask any question as long as it has to do with the first time you experienced something. The game goes back and forth until one of you refuses to answer, or simply can’t because you’re laughing so hard.
I SAY: HEY NOW, YOU SAY: ???
It’s just honestly really important to know if your new vina is a “YOU’RE AN ALL STAR, GET YA GAME ON, GO PLAY” or a “HEY NOW, THIS IS WHAT DREEEEAMS ARE MADE OF” kinda gal. Both are honorable answers, but it must be answered. Mandatory, standardized testing. Don’t look into it.
You’re all set for your next vina date, so start planning it!