It’s no secret that looking for a job can be a competitive game. You’ve probably worked hard to get where you are, and so have the many candidates you’re up against.
So what happens when one of those candidates is your friend?
FIRST THINGS FIRST: DON’T COMPARE
In situations like this, it’s easy to be consumed by thoughts of who is better at what, who is more suited for the job, and who has worked harder.
Not only will these things hurt your friendship immensely, they damage your self-confidence and your vine’s, too.
DISCUSS IT BRIEFLY, THEN LEAVE IT ALONE
So, you find out you’re going for the same job. There’s no harm in talking about it in hypotheticals with your friend once–but don’t make your time with this friend only about the job. In fact, try not to talk about it. Instead, continue your friendship as is.
BE HER SUPPORT
Encourage her, build her up. Trust she will do the same for you. This is not an easy situation to navigate, and in the event that one of you gets the job and the other does not, you both have an important role to play. Make an effort not to let this be a needle in your friendship, but instead, a defining moment.
What would you do if you and a friend were up for the same job? Let us know below!
As powerful and motivated vinas, competition is in our nature. Often, it can push us to work harder and improve our skills. Just look at the Olympics – in order to be the best in the world you have to size up your competition and find ways to outperform them. It forces you to completely dedicate yourself to your craft and achieve great accomplishments.
Even with all the benefits of competition, sometimes the positive spirit of it can be lost. Women have been taught to compare ourselves to others which can make us question our own self-worth. These types of feelings can be detrimental to our own growth and self-improvement, especially when they manifest as catty or cliquey behavior.
As vinas we need to band together to appreciate and learn from each other’s strengths. An individual is limited on how much experience she can gain on her own. When you learn from the challenges and achievements of your fellow vinas, you can instantly gain so much more knowledge and inspiration. Building a community of vinas who share and collaborate elevates everyone and brings your work to new heights.
I began blogging a couple years ago and after working completely on my own for about 6 months I started to feel isolated, uninspired, and frustrated. It wasn’t until I attended a blogger event at San Francisco Fashion Week that I met some fellow bloggers who have helped me achieve so much more with my own blog.
We meet on a regular basis and have working sessions to discuss pain points, brainstorm, and collaborate on projects. They are my first point on contact when I am faced with a blogging decision or obstacle. I gain so much when we share our experiences and are frank and honest about hardships. Sometimes just knowing that someone else has been through the same experiences you are going through is enough to give you the strength to keep pushing forward. Can you say #SquadGoals?
Supporting the success of others doesn’t take away from your own hard work. And when your time comes around, your girl gang will be there to celebrate your success with you. Let’s bring out the best and elevate each other!
How do you and your vinas support each other? Share in the comments!
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