TELLTALE SIGNS THAT YOUR FRIEND IS TROUBLED (AND HOW TO HELP HER)

This summer iconic rockers Chris Cornell and Chester Bennington both committed suicide mere months apart. Several other stars, including Demi Lovato, Lady Gaga and Selena Gomez notably spoke openly about their struggles with mental illnesses.

In a compelling interview with The Today Show, Lady Gaga revealed that she suffered from PTSD every day. She went on to say that the only reason she’s alive today is because of the kindness shown to her from her doctors, her family, and importantly, her friends.

“It’s really important to remind kids who are suffering from a traumatic experience or from abandonment, to remind them that they’re not alone, and that they’re loved,” she continued. “We are in this together.”

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And it’s true; we are in this together. While you might not personally suffer from depression or anxiety, you almost certainly know someone who does. About 1 in 5 US adults suffer from some form of mental illness according to the World Health Organization. In fact, there are more than 200 classified forms of mental illness, which means most of us may even struggle in silence and go undiagnosed. And then, of course, there’s the stigma that still exists.

Across the Atlantic Ocean, Prince William, Prince Harry and Kate Middleton have started a foundation called Heads Together, targeted at ending stigma and changing the conversation on mental health. This shift is vital.

According to the National Alliance of Mental Health, “Navigating life with a mental health condition can be tough, and the isolation, blame and secrecy that is often encouraged by stigma can create huge challenges to reaching out, getting needed support and living well.”

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The good news: support does exist. And we can help provide it.

If you suspect that your friend is suffering from a mental illness, look out for the following signs:

  1. Prolonged depression (sadness or irritability)
  2. Excessive fears, worries and anxieties
  3. Social withdrawal
  4. Strong feelings of anger
  5. Strange thoughts (delusions)
  6. Growing inability to cope with daily problems and activities
  7. Suicidal thoughts
  8. Numerous unexplained physical ailments
  9. Confused thinking or reduced ability to concentrate
  10. Extreme mood changes of highs and lows
  11. Significant tiredness, low energy or problems sleeping
  12. Trouble understanding and relating to situations and to people
  13. Alcohol or drug abuse
  14. Excessive anger, hostility or violence

This is certainly not a comprehensive list, but if your vina is displaying any of them, it’s definitely a sign that your bestie is not ok.

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There is a big gaping hole in society when it comes to mental health.  Sufferers are often left to suffer on their own because people don’t understand them.  If it’s hard for you to deal with your friend’s emotions, imagine how hard it must be for her not knowing how she feels or how to express those feelings on a daily basis.

Let’s not shoo it off as “that B is cray-cray”.  Rather listen to the silent signals and signs.  Pay attention.  You might just have your friend’s life in your hands.

MEET OLIVIA JUNE, FOUNDER OF VINA

Olivia June is the CEO and Co-founder of VINA. I recently sat down with her to explore her interests in social psychology, the reasons she started an app for female friendships, and how her experiences making and maintaining friendships have evolved over the years. During our chat, Olivia introduced me to ‘parasocial’ relationships, and let me know how much she’s just like all of you.

So, let’s get to know our beloved VINAZINE founder and fearless leader, Olivia June…

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First, can you talk a bit about how you came up with the idea for VINA?

OJ: Funnily enough, I actually thought of the idea while online dating. When I first moved to SF in 2009, I didn’t know anyone, so I joined OKCupid and started going on dates to get out of the house. I discovered that the internet was really good at connecting me to like-minded people, yet I found I was making more friends than love connections. So, I started checking out the profiles of the other women “similar to me” on the site, and thought they were brilliant and hilarious and that they’d totally be my friends, so I started messaging them to meet up for happy hour! It was awkward AF though because it was a dating site! So, ultimately I abandoned this strategy. 

I joined the board of a non-profit, Spark SF, a philanthropic organization dedicated to millennials investing into grassroots women’s empowerment organizations. While I’ve always thought of myself as an empowered woman and, of course, a feminist, my eyes started to open to the scale of gender issues around the world. I also learned that when you invest into women, all of humanity and civilization becomes better.

As, I continued to work to solve my own problem in growing a network in a new city, I started co-organizing monthly wine events for women to meet. They’ve been running for 6 years! Every month more than 100 women would meet up in wine bar in SF to network like friends. When people who attended the gatherings started moving — to London, LA, NYC — they wanted me to start hosting events in their new cities. This wasn’t scalable for me because I worked full time, but I loved the idea of helping them find new connections and build new friendships as they navigated new places.

I really appreciate how technology allows a small group of people to impact the lives of millions. And with that in mind, I brought all my life experiences together and the concept for VINA was born! 

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What do you want all the women on Hey! VINA to know about you?

Olivia June: It’s important to me that all Hey! VINA women know I’ve been through so many similar life changes to them. I transferred colleges a few times and had to rebuild my social circle over and over again. I moved to a new city after college where I didn’t know a single other person. I’ve found myself in a relationship and realized I had no friends outside of it. And then, of course, when we broke up, I realized I had no friends….period. I’ve had friends move on to start their families while I was focused on my career. And I saw my social life shift when I got married and all my friends were single, and similarly when I got divorced. I’ve experienced losing friends to relationships and work responsibilities, and I’ve seen new friendships blossom through those same experiences.

These are all really hard things that most all of us women go through. There’s been one reinforcing learning though, a strong network of girl friends helps us navigate though and conquer these challenges. I now have amazing friends who support me, have my back, have inspiring life goals, and share similar visions of the futures… but I’m always looking for more, too! You never know what a new friend will bring into your life. 

Anyway, it’s been through these close and supportive friendships that I’ve actually been able to become my whole, authentic self. Because of their friendship and support, I’ve actually felt the confidence to develop really great romantic relationships, discover my professional strengths, have the courage to quit my job and start VINA, and make this company thrive! I didn’t always have friends who really saw me. And now that I do, I really understand how transformative deep female friendships can be. 

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Lastly, what’s something you’re fascinated by in the world?

Well, social psychology is my academic expertise, it’s what I studied in college, and in large part, I’m still working in the field today. I’ve been super fascinated by how we connect as humans to one another and how our social well-being is pivotal to our physical and emotional well-being. I’ve also always been deeply intrigued by gender psychology, and understanding the differences between male and female traits and how they apply to the world both in life and in business. My sex is female and I gender identify as a woman, but I don’t identify with every single behavior pattern that is associated with women. I think it’s really interesting to see how gender is evolving today as societally we become more open and understanding of everyone’s unique makeup! 

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Want more of Olivia June? We thought so!

To give you a chance to get all of your burning questions answered, we’ve decided to start a weekly advice column with Olivia that we’re calling Hey! Olivia June.

We’re going to pull back the curtain and let you tap deeper into her expertise in friendships, social psychology, careers, gender issues, as well as tech, startups and entrepreneurship… or literally anything you need some advice on from a girl friend.

Whatever you’re curious about or experiencing, know that you’re totally not the only one! To hear more from Olivia June, simply submit your question here.

 

VINA SUCCESS! HOW I FOUND A MATCH (AND A NEW CLOSE FRIEND)

The Setup

August, 2016. I’m sitting in a pub in St. Paul, Minnesota, glancing past my laptop screen and a pint of Guinness at my husband’s jovial expression. He’s very jovial after a few beers; he thinks he’s funny (which is usually true), and since I’ve told him I’m in no mood for distractions, he’s resorted to texting our friend in Tennessee.

Tennessee is about the closest any of our friends lived anymore. My husband and I studied abroad in our senior year of college, made friends, and when the term ended everyone scattered across the US and the globe. We’d kept up through Facebook, Snapchat, and occasional video calls, but it’d been almost a year since we graduated and we had few people to share our beers or our jollity with in person besides ourselves. A few other friends from college were around, but busy with new jobs and relationships. Social media must have some answers for us, I thought, so I went on a mission that night to find them. And I ran across Hey! VINA.

I’m not one to jump on every social media hype – I’m even a little slow when it comes to grooming my online presence. When I added Hey! VINA to my phone, I didn’t know how useful it would be. I was skeptical that my profile on the app would be enough to make other women want to meet me; but I appreciated the personality quiz, the emoji section, the chance to link my Instagram (my favorite social media outlet), and the way that the app let me represent so many different aspects of myself. Swiping right on another person freaked me out at first – but only I realized how excited I was to meet some of these women!

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First Date

One of my first Hey! VINA matches was a woman named Joanne. Joanne worked in university administration like me, and her first Instagram photo showed a long aisle lined with books. I figured we could get along. Since she had newly arrived in my city, I thought I could have fun showing her my favorite places. Further, Joanne said she liked to bake, and I am always interested in the potential for cookies. So I said hello.

Every once in a while, you do something a little scary and a little spontaneous, and you wrap up a bunch of nerves and hope and self-doubt and optimism into it, and you realize later that you made a huge win. Saying hey to Joanne was a win. She wrote back; she’d be happy to meet me; she wondered where we could go. Cake? Yes. Cafe Latte, Grand Avenue. Thursday – or wait, that doesn’t work. Tuesday. Yes, Tuesday. Cafe Latte. See you then!

So we had cake for dinner on our first date. I could make several puns here about cake, sweetness, friendship, etc, but I’ll save you. An hour and a half of animated conversation later, Joanne and I exchanged phone numbers and determined we would meet again in a few weeks for a “Drunk Spelling Bee” at a local pub – because who doesn’t want to drink beer while showing off mad spelling skills?! And, we decided, we would drag along our significant others to make it a double date.

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The Rest is History

As promised, a few weeks later we all met to embarrass ourselves in front of a crowd. (At least, most of us would embarrass ourselves – my husband handily won the night’s spelling bee, winning us more beer than we could drink. Wanting to remember the night, though, we gave much of it away!) We chatted for hours, we enjoyed the night, we thought of many more things to do together. As it turned out, Joanne’s boyfriend and my husband both majored in history in college, so they had plenty to talk about. And we talked, that night and many other nights, and days on long walks in the cold of a Minnesota autumn, around lakes, along rows of houses, in our homes, and over coffee and chocolate croissants. And yes, as of last weekend, I did get some cookies out of the deal.

I could not have guessed, six months ago, that a couple I’d never met before would become good friends with my husband and I by year’s end. I, for one, can’t wait to see what lies in 2017 for our friendship, and I think all of us are deeply grateful for meeting each other and for the other friends we’ve now made through Hey! Vina. What made it work? For one thing, our personalities fit well – and that’s a big deal. But there are some other elements to this relationship as well that others might find helpful in their own Hey! VINA ventures.

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Why it Worked

Joanne and I get along: I find it easy to talk to her, we have no trouble thinking of things to do together, and we’re interested in similar pursuits. We had to get to this point somehow, though, so how did we do it? I think one of the most important answers is that we both took initiative. I messaged Joanne soon after we matched, introducing myself and clearly stating my desire to meet her in person rather than dragging out a long conversation on our phones. At the end of our first date, Joanne identified our next date and two possible times for it, then texted me to remind me that I should talk to my husband about which time worked. That’s partly our personalities, but I know I wouldn’t have taken this kind of initiative even a couple years ago, and that initiative (from both me and her) is what kept us meeting up with each other and providing us space to connect.

Another reason Hey! VINA worked for us is because we both kept an open mind in our conversations, in our understanding of each other, and in our plans to see each other. Because we both had the attitude that anything can be fun with friends, we were (or at least, I was) more creative about what activities we could do together, and those activities provided an environment in which we could grow our friendship. We’ve also mixed things up, hanging out one-on-one, on double dates with our significant others, and with larger groups of friends. That variety has allowed us to keep getting to know each other in new ways and has kept our friendships from falling into an early rut.

Of course, August wasn’t so long ago, so I’m excited to continue getting to know Joanne and her boyfriend, and I’m sure we’ll continue to appreciate Hey! Vina’s role in getting us started. Meanwhile, we’re also busy swiping, matching, and starting conversations on the app!

WHAT TO DO IF YOUR FRIEND SAYS SHE’S NOT A FEMINIST

Take a deep breath.

I took an Introduction to Feminism course my sophomore year of college, and let me tell you, it rocked my world. I knew vaguely of the women’s rights movement and would probably have told people that I was a feminist, but I was not enlightened to the extent of which I realized that prejudice based on gender affects nearly every aspect of our lives. I am very vocal in advocating for feminism, but I have noticed since taking the class that many of my friends shy away from or directly reject identifying themselves as a feminist. Now I totally understand that not all of us have the opportunity to take an introductory course, but it is something that should be discussed openly and we as women (but also everyone) should be educated about. If you have a similar situation or simply want to know more about the topic (hell yeah), here’s my way of introducing and talking about it:

Firstly, don’t get annoyed with your friend. She has a different set of experiences and backgrounds (and probably has not been given a complete history in gender studies), so do not judge. First ask your friend, “Do you believe in equality?” or even just “Do you want to own your own body?” If they answer yes to either of these questions, surprise! That’s what a feminist believes in. Now you can get to specifics.

Feminism is defined as “the theory of political, economic, and social equality of the sexes” by Merriam-Webster. That’s literally what it is: equality between genders. Since the movement’s public emergence in the 60’s, opponents have been quick to jump on and point out the most radical version of it. Stereotypes of feminists are often portrayed as men-hating “feminazis.” The negative portrayal of feminists in our society has most likely contributed to your friend’s idea of what feminism means. (Like, for example, if we all judged the Bachelorette solely based on her giving the rose to the WhaBoom! guy, we probably would not have such high opinions of Rachel.) Remind them of this, this is the reason it is so important to reclaim feminism for yourself and all women, to show them its more than okay to do so and you’re not going to stand by idly.

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Then, give her an example of how it is used. The feminist movement is the reason why women can be in the professional field (and be successful in their jobs!). It is also used to call into question why women are not being paid as much as men or why female bodies are continually objectified in media and advertising. Sexism is still alive and well today. Feminism is not a tool for wining or complaining about prejudice, its bringing up legitimate questions on how society is unfairly treating a group of people. Most importantly, its existence is necessary for progress and change. (Check out some dope TED talks on modern feminism here.)

End with this; there is no right or wrong way to advocate for equality (but keep it intersectional, find out what that is here). The most important part is that you are doing so, and knowing that it doesn’t have to be done in an obnoxious way. Simply by beginning to notice and address that guys are usually not the ones being catcalled or that it shouldn’t be normal to not feel safe when walking alone is recognizing the disparity in gender equality. We can all be feminists (hey men! even you!) and we should all be feminists.

Meet other like-minded vinas using the Hey! VINA app, here!

HOW TO START A BUSINESS WITH YOUR BESTIE

Interested in starting a business with your bestie? Sounds fun (and potentially very lucrative). Before you embark on this adventure, we thought we’d share some tips for you. After all, businesses can be stressful and a dear friendships should never be destroyed for money. To save you from a failed startup and a broken friendship, some tips below.

Know each others’ strengths and weaknesses

The honest truth is that we only see what people allow us to see. What makes a great friend doesn’t always make a great business partner. This is why that taking an assessment test could be a great activity before you kick off your business. After all, you’re both experts at taking Buzzfeed quizzes, right?

Find out your Meyers-Briggs type or use a system like Matrix Insights to find out what you’re strongest at on a team and what you could use some work on. The more you know about yourself and your bestie-turned-business partner, the fewer problems you’re likely to run into down the road.

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Define the roles you’ll have 

For example, Alexis Maybank of Gilt Groupe was founding CEO but also in charge of customer support. Her bestie and business partner, Alexandra Wilkis Wilson, was head of merchandising but also responsible for picking up the phone. No matter how many hats you find yourself wearing, don’t wait until the phone rings to decide who’s supposed to pick it up.

Talk values and vision, often and early 

Sometimes we assume we already know the values of our best friend. I mean, they’re our best friends, right? Of course they have a shared value system. But we suggest having conversations about value and company vision right from the start. Ideally, you should spend time talking about what’s important to you in the day-to-day, but also in the long term should your company really take off.  We suggest you both the time to fill out these Vision, Mission, and Values worksheet. Trust us.

Talk about exit strategies 

It’s an icky subject, but if you’ve seen The Social Network you know that getting into business with your friends doesn’t always have a happy ending. Knowing who’s entitled to what if the business is successful and someone wants out later on will avoid a lot of crossed swords.

If you do these these things and feel alignment, you’re good to go. Good luck raising your first round!

 

5 FEMALE BLOGGERS YOU NEED TO FOLLOW ASAP.

 

Half Baked Harvest

For your everyday food porn needs, follow Tieghan, the 21 year creator of Half Baked Harvest.  From cozy comfort foods, to over the top decadent chocolate cakes, Tieghan does it all, and her amazing photography skills will never fail to impress and inspire you to be a little more creative in your kitchen endeavors! View Tieghan’s blog here.

Rachel Mansfield

Using simple recipes and limited ingredients, Rachel Mansfield specializes in all things snack related. Her go-to ingredients of various nut butters and dark chocolate are incorporated in clean recipes that make you feel good and satisfy your sweet tooth. View Rachel’s blog here.

My New Roots

Sara is a Holistic Nutritionist and Certified Nutritional Practitioner currently living in Copenhagen.  Her plant based, organic diet is centered around the health care system of Holistic Nutrition which focuses on integrating the physical, nutritional, environmental, emotional, and spiritual aspects of peoples lives. Besides making cook books and constantly updating her food blog, Sara hosts cooking classes and nutrition workshops at women’s wellness retreats all over the world! View My New Roots here.

Ambitious Kitchen

Monique, the creator of Ambitious Kitchen is an all around rockstar. She makes food geared towards individuals with active lifestyles, and also shares her personal fitness tips, and travel stories. She preaches the importance of finding a balance with food and exercise, something she knows is a daily struggle for so many people. Read Monique’s blog here.

Nutrition Stripped

The Nutrition Stripped philosophy is based on a deep understanding of how the food we eat powerfully impacts how our bodies feel.  Mckell, creator of Nutrition Stripped, is a registered dietician with a Master of Science in clinical nutrition. She stresses the importance of getting back to basics, eating a plant-centric diet, never eating anything with an expiration date older than you, and practicing mindfulness to free our brains. Read Nutrition Stripped here. 

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YOU SHOULD BE TREATING YOUR FRIENDSHIP LIKE A RELATIONSHIP

…If you want it to last that is.

My best friend and I are incredibly close.  I’d say that she’s like a sister to me, but honestly she’s more like a romantic partner.  This friendship was incredibly eye opening to me because I realized that I had been doing friendships all wrong.  I was treating my friends like well, friends, when I should have treated them like romantic partners.

Obviously a romantic relationship and a friendship are different in many ways. Romantic relationships are about commitment and a deep love and care for one another, while friendships are a little more casual than that.  Sure you love your friend, but probably not the same way you love your partner.  Romantic relationships also rely heavily on honest communication, while this can be slightly avoided in a friendship. Being in a romantic relationship implies a sense of commitment, while a friendship can be lacking.

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There are conversations that we have in romantic relationships that we don’t have in friendships.  Like the commitment talk.  Do you see yourself being friends with this person in 20 years?  Do they see that as well?  If you want a friendship to last longer than high school or college, it takes more than just calling them your best friend for life.  It takes an intentional conversation about your relationship, and an end goal that you both agree on.  Friendships are just as important as romantic relationships, and if you love having someone as friend, you should make the effort to keep that person as a friend.

When I stared treating my friendship like a relationship, it changed almost instantly.  We were closer, we were more in sync, I felt a deeper connection to her.  We talked more about stuff that was important to us, instead of just what happened that day at school.  I learned more about her life before college, and I felt like I could open up to her more. We were on the same page and I couldn’t understand why I never acted like this before in friendships.

Treating your friend like a partner isn’t just putting more intentionality into your friendship, but actually realizing that your friend is a type of partner, and that relationship deserves the same love and attention you give your romantic ones.

WHY GIVING A S*** IS ACTUALLY COOL

I was never one of those kids who went around acting like I was “too good” for something. I have always had a tendency to wear my heart on my sleeve.

If something interests me, I can’t contain my excitement. I’m like a little kid getting all hyped up because tomorrow is Lunchables Day! That uncontrollable giddyness that is so closely associated with kids – yeah, well, I still have that.

If something doesn’t interest me, try as I might to muster up enthusiasm,  I can’t do it. Thankfully, it goes relatively unnoticed to anyone around me, but deep inside I can’t shake the feeling that it is tough lying through my teeth.

Throughout time the lines seem to have been blurred between what is acceptable behavior for young adults when it comes to showing excitement, and what is lame.

We have all seen movies where somebody asks their crush out on a date and for a split second their unabashed enthusiasm is bared, only to be caught a second later and smoothed back down like a bad combover. They realized they sounded excited and immediately had to try to reverse things because apparently excited = uncool.

Now, I’m not sure when this mentality really took over, or why it did, but I can tell you, it isn’t how I’ve gotten through my 24 years on Earth. Nor would I recommend it for anyone else living their life.

I always though it seemed like a miserable way to exist. We as humans already have to train ourselves to surpress so many emotions. Even if our world is crumbling, we still have to wake up, head to school or work, put on a brave face and make it through the day. We have to mask our pain, sorrow, anger, distain and even our genuine happiness. All the work that goes into hiding something that should be expressed, is exhausting.

Not only is it tiring to always seal out your emotions, but it can also affect your relationships with people. You can only spend so much time acting like your not interested in others and casually doing your own thing, before it catches up to you. Folks will eventually learn not to rely on you, and not care to talk to you. This can put you at a huge disadvantage in the job market and in the overall life market. I mean honestly, who wants to be around someone who always acts like they just don’t care about what’s going on?

Acting uninterested in things can just be a phase, and for most teenagers and young adults, that’s the case. Growing out of it, is vital though. I can’t stress enough how important it is to let your loved ones know how much they mean to you. It’s absolutely critical that those who you care about see it reflected in their interactions with you.

Remember, ” A heart is not judged by how much you love, but by how much you are loved by others.”- L. Frank Baum, The Wonderful Wizard of Oz

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OCTOBER FRIENDSHIP HOROSCOPES

If last month’s horoscope was a total turn off, then just wait to see what our October 2017 horoscope has in store! Pour a glass of wine this evening and revel in the truth with your best vinas.

ARIES

This month you will do best to focus on relationship fulfillment. First, contemplate if there is any tension within your friendships. You will experience great relief to resolve these issues and your friendships will be much stronger because of it!

TAURUS

This month is all about self development, Taurus! There are some exciting things in store for you. Even some new feelings arising in a friendship, complicating your social life. It may be a little off putting for your other vinas but trust your instincts!

GEMINI 

Yes indeed, you are the social butterfly of your group but sometimes is good to spend some one-on-one time with a single vina! You’ll both get a lot out of it and it’s time to let your closest vinas know how much you care.

CANCER

For you, October will be filled with change. Don’t be overwhelmed though because your best vinas will have your back and you’ll find refuge in their support.

LEO

Don’t daydream too much, Leo. You’ll need to be there for your vinas this much, they’ll rely on your insights. Don’t feel overwhelmed if a lot of your closest friends are running to you now, you seem to be spot on this month and you’ll also be getting a lot of clarity out of the exchanges.

VIRGO

Get ready to multi-task as your career/classes and your friends will both be pulling you from both ends! It will be good for you to spend some alone time this month and reflect on ways you can support your vinas while still taking care of your own needs.

LIBRA

October is going to be a very generous month for you, Libra. As you clear away some past resentments within your friendships you will have stronger. more fulfilling connections with your vinas.

SCORPIO

It’s important for you to figure out how to find a balance between your time with your vinas and your work. If you neglect either of these you will experience a lot of stress and your vinas will make other arrangements. Don’t feel left out — just spend some quality time with them! It’s the perfect weekend to pop open some champagne and binge Netflix.

SAGITTARIUS

You can overcome your stress this month with a few much-needed changes! You may find yourself snapping at your vinas and coworkers alike — you’re feeling frazzled and it’s time to take a much needed vacation. Even a weekend spa will do the trick! Call your best vinas and prepare a nice face steam.

CAPRICORN

Your big plans are looking very promising this month, Capricorn. Your creative thinking is on the rise and your budding new vinas are excited to get together for new adventures. You may even have a secret admirer!

AQUARIUS

I know you’re feeling a hankering to be more independent this month and it may just become an issue within your friendships. This reevaluation will take quite a lot of your time this month. Remember that emotional independence will do you well and your relationships with vinas and love interests will surprisingly become more fulfilling and intimate!

PISCES

Your vinas are in the front of your mind this month, Pisces! Open-mindedness is best within your circle of friends but also make time for yourself. Even better, you’ll thrive in the other areas of your life when you incorporate your social circles.

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10 UNDERRATED INSTAGRAM ACCOUNTS TO FOLLOW RIGHT NOW

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@akitching

Because energy, hard work, and spirituality can be just aesthetically gorgeous (if not more so) than your favorite travel insta.

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@girlboss

Get inspiring quotes and relatable memes all in one place. From Sophia Amoruso, who also brought us Nasty Gal and Nasty Galaxy.

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@coopdecoeur

Famous cats are a long-time trend but chickens are giving them a run for their…eggs? Fill your timeline with some cute chick-a-dees! 🐣

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@tokyofashion

My best friend says she never gets bored of this insta and she has better taste than me, so you bet your next glass of champagne I followed them too! Fashion inspo for days!

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@surviveyourstory

Shawna Ayoub Ainslie is a writing coach and on her ‘gram you’ll find prompts, inspiration, and more. She believes writing is the way to recovery and I can say, within my own experience, this is true.

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@drinkingwithchickens

For more adorable chickens plus fancy adult beverages please look no further. I swear I’m not just obsessed with chickens (okay, I might be), but this Instagram is full of yummy cocktail recipes as well. Win-win!

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@theconnoisseurofcute

This girl’s taste and style is ON POINT. Her account is color overload in the best way possible, and I love it. Trust me, you will, too.

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@ginafrey

Look no further for this year’s Halloween inspiration. As she says, Gina’s a Med student that does creepy clown makeup on the side…and by creepy she means drop dead gorgeous. Sure, you may find your make-up look for halloween, but some of her looks are great for every day, too!

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@craftcheesefactory

Vintage and retro crafts and collections. Need I say more? This kitsch makes my heart skip beats and it’s what I live for online!

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@ilikevina

Shameless plug, but are you following Hey! VINA on Instagram yet? #Friendspo all over the place, plus fun giveaways and first looks at new app features! You really can’t go wrong.

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