FINALLY, THE PERFECT GIFT FOR YOUR WINE-LOVING VINA

If wine varieties were vinas, Rosé is without a doubt the social butterfly vina in any summer event. She reminds us that life is better at a picnic lunch with friends, especially when celebrating a fellow vina’s promotion or engagement. Rosé wants to bask in the brighter things in life and reminds us that bad days are better on a yacht. (Or in your apartment as you stare at a photo of a yacht.)

While it’s not news that we love rosé, we weren’t prepared for our deep well of feels when we found out about rosé wine-flavored chocolate. It’s almost like the magical feeling you get when meeting a new vina for the first time and realizing you’ve found your soul sister.

Los Angeles-based gourmet chocolatier Compartés has officially lit our wine-loving souls on fire with their new “Roses & Rosé” bar, a luxe blend of white chocolate and rosé with a sprinkle of edible crystalized rose petals. Yes, it’s the Marie Antoinette of chocolate, and we are unabashedly obsessed with it.

Now, you and your vina can live out your French royalty goals and lounge around on chaise chairs, sharing chocolate fit for two queens. Say YAS to another feel good Friday and swipe right for a new vina and some rosé-flavored chocolate.

(Featured image via thelondoner.me)

HOW TO PREP FOR AN EMPTY NEST

While not technically a clinical condition, Empty Nest Syndrome is real and it affects parents all over the world. But not all hope is lost. There are things you can do before your child moves out on their own to prepare for the transition. We dug around a little, and it turns out that research shows it gives parents the perfect opportunity to expand their network and create deep, lasting bonds with new and old friends.

GET IN SOME QUALITY TIME

This one might be obvious, but Shelley Emling from the Huffington Post says she wished she had taken advantage of her son’s availability the summer before he went away to college.  It’s important to appreciate the little moments that you might miss when your kid moves out.  Family dinners, days at the ballpark, or even simply walking the dog together can be nice ways to get in some quality time before they fly the metaphorical nest.

SET EXPECTATIONS

If you’re worried about losing touch, be proactive! Set some expectations for visits home and even weekly phone calls. Don’t make it a chore, but let your kid know you’re excited to hear all about what they’re up to. It’s okay to tell them you’ll miss them – they’re going to miss you too!

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KNOW THAT THIS IS EXCITING TIME FOR EVERYONE

It may be hard at first, but as most parents can attest to – it’s an exciting time for your child and for you. Even the American Psychological Association reported that “this period can be one of increased satisfaction and improved relationships” for parents. So take advantage! You now have more time to really focus on your social relationships – whether that’s with your other family members, your partner, or your friends.

For all our rockin’ moms out there, try Hey! Vina to find some other moms going through the same thing. You can bond over your empty nest and then find something to do together in your free time. Take up a new hobby together, focus on fitness, or finally try all those Pinterest recipes you’ve been pinning all year.

How are you preparing for an empty nest? Let us know in the comments below!

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3 EASY STEPS TO TURN THAT FRIEND-CRUSH INTO A BFF

Everyone has some fringe friends. They’re usually a regular part of your routine: your hairdresser, barista, Jenny in cycling class, a friend of a friend. Or maybe she sits behind you in Econ, or she’s a fellow mom who has admirable taste in printed pants.

These women are on the periphery, and you probably even hold regular and good convos with them, compliment each other, know about their latest #ladybrag. How do we make the leap from someone you chat up every Tuesday morning at your regular coffeehouse to a true blue friend, the kind you can call in need and tell you which swimsuit not to buy. If you’ve got someone in mind, we have 3 tips for you to take your connection to the next level:

1. BREAK THE MOLD

This first step is crucial because it sets forth a new path for the two of you. You must step outside the regular routine of your encounters. This means you could introduce a new, perhaps more personal, topic to the talks. Share something about yourself, or better yet ask them something new. Gauge how well this goes and perhaps repeat this step a few more times to get ready for step two.

2. MAKE IT 1-ON-1

Ask her to do something else besides chat while the carpool lane crawls along or as you sweat through hot yoga. We’ve got tons of great first vina date ideas here on the zine if you are running low on creativity. It is probably a good idea to keep this first date an one-on-one thing, even though your might feel more comfortable with your other friends there. But sometimes, it’s overwhelming to jump into a convo with friends who already know the stories, the references, and all the inside jokes in between. Give your new friendship its own space to grow roots.

3. DON’T LET IT FIZZLE

Keep that newly baked friendship at room temp by following up after your initial hangout. You can do this via text, keep her in the loop or share funny memes while at work. Or, invite her out the next time with a few of your other vinas and make an effort to keep her in the conversation. A friendship is a relationship, and it needs attention, water (stay hydrated, ladies) and some love. But, don’t go overboard and send her a million crown, cat, diamond emojis every other minute. Play it cool. You’re cool. You got this.

(Featured image via sheerluxe.com)

OUR FAVE FRIENDSHIP JAMS

Here at VINA HQ, we’re all about celebrating our friendships. Like any average Jane, we also love music (a lot – we have a whole Slack channel dedicated exclusively to sharing it and one of our team members moonlights as a super cool DJ.) Music is one of our favorite forms of emotional expression and is a HUGE part of how people relate to each other and bond.

Nothing beats finding a friend who has the same favorite band or went to that ah-mazing concert you were also at last month. Plus, who doesn’t love living room dance parties with your fellow vinas, right? So grab your vinas, check out the playlist below, and get ready to DANCE!

Also, check out our favorite #BossBabe songs and don’t forget to follow @heyvina on Spotify!

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FIND YOUR NEW BFF WHILE WORKING UP A SWEAT 💪👟

No one needs to tell us once again how important it is to get our bodies up and moving. Sometimes, though, we need a little bit of motivation. And the best motivation is a workout buddy. A vina who will get you off your butt when all you want to do is stay at home and binge-watch your favorite reality TV show is key to a healthy lifestyle.

Our current lady squad can enable our more unhealthy habits (don’t worry – we’re guilty, too), and we may need to find some #fitspo vinas to add to our social circle. We’re a fan of using the Hey! VINA app to easily find a new friend for that new workout class, but we have a few tips on how to find friends IRL!

Here’s how to find your new BFF while working out:

TRY A NEW CLASS

This advice works for all walks of life, but is especially true to the gym: the best way to find new friends is to try a new class. You’ll meet tons of new people and develop a sense of camaraderie when you’re all getting your butts kicked by that seemingly impossible HIIT workout. Don’t know what to say to break the ice? Try some of our fool-proof friend pick-up lines!

BEFRIEND YOUR PERSONAL TRAILER

No one would make a better motivator than the girl who literally works out for a living. You can learn a lot from her, too – from proper stretching technique to the cutest workout clothing stores! Plus, in my experience, these women are so friendly and open to making friends. They work one-on-one with people all day so you know they’re going to be kind and charismatic. Don’t be afraid to suggest grabbing a coffee or tea with your trainer next week!  ☕️🍵

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BRING SNACKS 🍌🍊🍏

Everyone wants to be friends with the girl with all the yummy, healthy, post-workout treats.  Snacking together is a great way to socialize after a workout! Share healthy recipes, snacking favorites, and fave “cheat” foods with your new friends. Trust me, you’ll be the most popular vina in your yoga class, bootcamp, or walking group if you provide the noms.

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ROUGE, CORAL, OR PRETTY IN PINK?💋 CELEBRATING NATIONAL LIPSTICK DAY

You know we love silly holidays here at the VINA HQ, so it was only natural we decided to celebrate today’s homage to lipstick. That’s right: it’s National Lipstick Day! 💋👄💄💋👄

We got thinking about the colors that we feel beautiful and confident in. Some of us like rocking a classic red, and some of us liked colors that strayed from the norm (navy blue anyone?). No matter what, we agreed that lipstick has a definite superpower of making us feel more confident! It takes guts to rock a bold color, that’s for sure.

We had a littttttle bit of fun creating this video for you: check out our favorite lipsticks and how they help us express our individual personalities!

 

 

What’s your favorite lip color of choice?

HEY, GIRL, HEY! TRY THESE PICK-UP LINES TO GET NEW FRIENDS

Starting a friendship from scratch is always the hardest part. So, how do you start a friendship, strike up that initial convo that leads to the yellow brick road? We’re curious about the different sort of ways we introduce ourselves and what that says about the dynamic of friendship both in person and online.

Worried about coming off too strong? Or about how to compliment someone’s butt in yoga pants without being super creepy 👀? Some real-life vinas shared with us the hilarious moments and tricks that gave them the gusto to chat up a new friend.

OUR GIRL, ERIKA, SAYS…

We should hang out. I’ll usually say this if it feels natural. A lot of the time I’ll see the same person over and over again at a coffee shop or a store, and that tells me we’ve got similar lifestyles or schedules.”

KRISTEN, GOES IN FOR THE COMPLIMENT…

I like what you’re wearing. Not just because I like clothes but because I think a lot of women start a conversation with complimenting.”

CANDACE, FINDS A SAFE SPACE…

“My best friend and I went to the bathroom together at a party and she said, No one ever calls me. And I said, I’ll call you. That was ten years ago.”

AND THERE’S LARA, THE TRADITIONALIST…

“I use the tried and trusty: Come here often? It sounds cheesy, which works for me, but it’s truthful. Chances are we would have seen each other a few times and it’s only a matter of who says it first. I like being the open one. I’ll start a conversation with anyone.”

MEGAN ALWAYS USES A WINGMAN.

“I become friends with a lot of guys girl friends. If I’m working I’ll say, Hey send your girlfriend over here so I can buy her a beer she seems cool.”

KEEP IT WEIRD, APRIL, WE LOVE IT.

“I go for the random approach. Most recently I told a girl in line at a coffee shop that I absolutely hate raisins. She bought a muffin and made me try it. We sat down for coffee and turned out we went to the same college. Maybe it doesn’t always work like that but, the point is be you even if you are random.

sakuraconsidine_workdateNOW, HERE’S YOUR HEY! VINA TIP:

A great way to modify all of these stories into something that you could use on the Hey! VINA app is to translate them into questions. Be sincere and inquisitive. Ask your new match where her fave places are or where she likes to frequent. Or, you can ask her where to shop in the neighborhood or share something vital about yourself!

I think the moral of the story is be YOU.

Be the awkward, sincere, smoothie drinking, yoga skipping you that you really are. Any true potential friends will gravitate toward that. Keep an eye out for ladies who frequent the same places as you – whether it’s your local watering hole or preschool drop off.

Oh and one last thing… try looking for little things you have in common like an element of your personal style, having the same coffee order, or having matching notebooks (anyone else super excited to start using their Ban.do agendas?!). All of these can spark an initial conversation.

Share your own tips and success stories in the comments!

YOUR FIRST HEY! VINA DATE: CHICAGO

As far as Chicago goes, there really isn’t a cooler city. Of course, if you live there you already know that! There’s so much to do on any given day that it can almost be overwhelming to pick something low-key to do with a new vina. We asked some of our fave Chi-town vinas for their go-to picks, so that you don’t have to. Check out their ideas below!

BE A TOURIST

Even if you’re a Chicago native, sometimes and can be fun to go sight-seeing.  Play tourist and visit Cloud Gate (aka The Bean). Millennium Park is nice to walk around and get to know your new BFF, and The Bean gives you the PERFECT selfie opportunity. So grab your vina for a pic and don’t forget your selfie stick!

ART INSTITUTE CHICAGO

When was the last time you took a visit to the AIC? Our co-founder and CEO Olivia says that this is literally the best museum in the country, so take her advice and stop by! Right now, you can check out iconic contemporary masterpieces in their New Contemporary Exhibit or Aaron Siskind‘s awe-worthy abstract photography.

ROCK CLIMBING AT MILLENNIUM PARK

Did you know can go rock climbing at Millennium Park in the summer? Neither of you have to be an expert to go climbing, and a first Hey! VINA date is the perfect time to try something new. Cheer each other on or try racing to the top!

GET DEEP

Nothing says Chicago like the absolute heaven that is Deep. Dish. Pizza. We know everyone has their favorite local joint, but how about returning to a classic like Giordano’s? Do me a favor, after bonding over the cheesy, saucy deliciousness, mail me a slice?

 

DOUBLE TROUBLE

Speaking of pizza, nothing goes better with a hot slice than a cold brewski. That’s why Piece in Wicker Park is such a winner. Have one of their award-winning beers alongside delicious pizza. You really can’t go wrong.

CLASSIC COFFEE

For a first vina date, sometimes the best activity is simply grabbing a cup of joe. It lets you focus all your attention on getting to know your new friend. If you’re feeling fancy, try Gaslight Coffee Roasters for yummy coffee and treats. Plus, their really cute wall paper and tables make for A+ coffee instagrams. 😉

 

10 THINGS TO KNOW ABOUT YOUR LEO BFF

It’s officially Leo season, ladies. That means all your late-summer babes are going to be celebrating their birthdays and shining extra bright this month. Here are 10 things to know and appreciate about your Leo vinas as you get ready help them celebrate:

1. SHE’S LOYAL 👭

One of Leo’s best traits is loyalty.  Your Leo vina will be with you through thick and thin. There’s nothing this Leo lady wouldn’t do for you, and sometimes it can be hard not to take that for granted. To do your bff a solid, don’t forget to reciprocate!

2. SHE LOVES TO LADYBRAG! 🍾

Leo’s are proud of their accomplishments and they aren’t afraid brag about them! We love this Leo trait because we think every woman should be loud and proud about the things they’re achieving. Leo vinas are also great motivators to their friends so you’ll always have a personal cheerleader!

3. SHE’S HONEST ☝️

Leo’s aren’t afraid to say what’s on their mind. They’ll tell you the truth about everything, even when you think you don’t want to hear it. Don’t worry though, it’s always in your best interest.

4. SHE GIVES THE BEST ADVICE 👂

This one is important.  Leo’s LOVE to give advice, usully through telling a story.  I want to urge you to be patient, even if it feels like your Leo vina will never stop talking. But trust me, it’s in your best interest to shut up, sit back, and hear your girl out. She has invaluable wisdom and she loves to dispense it, so listen up!

5. SHE’S PRONE TO PAMPERING 🛍

One way Leo’s tend to show affection is by pampering their vinas. Get used to being showered in gifts!

6. SHE’S DEEP 🤔

Leo’s are super intelligent, and because of this they aren’t interested in the superficial. The best way to bond with a Leo is get deep. Don’t be afraid to say whatever’s on your mind!

7. SHE LOOKS AT THE GLASS HALF-FULL 💁

If there’s one thing Leo’s aren’t, it’s pessimistic.  For a Leo, every situation has a silver lining and everything, the good and the bad, is a learning experience. Take some notes, vinas! This is one amazing trait you can learn a lot from.

8. SHE’S A NATURAL LEADER 💪

Just as fierce lionesses hunt for their pack, so does very Leo gal take charge of their group. She’ll always be the initiator, the planner, and the boss – best not to get in the way of what she wants.

9. SHE’S A GREAT NETWORKER 👯

Leo’s have all the connections. They know literally everyone because they’re natural social butterflies. They have huge social and professional networks, but they’ll still manage to make their true BFFs feel loved and noticed.

10. SHE LOVES FIERCELY 💞

When Leo babes care about someone, they show it. They love their friends passionately and unconditionally. And they expect the love to be reciprocated!

What’s your favorite thing about your Leo vinas? Let us know in the comments below!

HOW THE HECK DO I FIND MY GIRL SQUAD IN A NEW CITY?!

If anyone knows how overwhelming it can seem to make new friends after moving to a new city, it’s me. I’m probably the luckiest gal in the world that I work for VINA 👯 now, and I’m loving it. But that meant leaving all my friends in Boston behind and moving back to my hometown of San Francisco. As the saying goes, I definitely left my ❤️ in SF, but it seems like a lot of my old pals have moved away! I was nervous to leave the girls who had become my heart and soul on the East Coast and basically start from scratch in Norcal.

In my opinion, making friends in college is a breeze compared to making friends as a Real Life Adult. In college, we meet people we instantly click with in student groups, classes, and in the dorms. When we leave it can be harder to find a community to settle into, let alone a smaller trusted group you can really let your freak flag fly with.

HOWEVER!

For you ladies in the same position as me: have no fear!  We can totally do this.  In fact, I’ve already started and I’ve met some amazing women.  I’ve collected tips, tricks, and motivational tools for getting out there and finding your SQUAD. Are you ready?

SOCIALIZE @ WORK

Le duhhh! It only makes sense that you’ll bond with the people you see every day, plus they’re passionate about the same thing you’re passionate about! Women who are at the same level as you can become amazing friends. You may also find a mentor in one of your superiors. If you do, don’t let that opportunity slip away. I’ve already learned so much from my amazing superiors, and there’s still so much more professional and general life knowledge to soak up from them! Finding women in the workplace to look up to and learn from is truly priceless.

TAKE YOUR HOBBY TO THE NEXT LEVEL

Chances are, there are other gals who like doing the same things you like doing. The hard part is finding them. Do you have a hobby? Crafting? Sports? Drinking wine? 🍷😉 Find a group of people who are already doing those things together, and join up! There are tons of recreational groups in every city, and they’re filled with people who enjoy your hobby too. Check local rec centers, hobby shops, and gyms for public groups you can join!

DON’T BE AFRAID TO GO IT ALONE

This might seem counter-productive, but trust me –  one of the best ways to meet new people is to just Get. Out. There. Even if you’re alone.  I’m talking solo coffee dates, going to the movies stag, seeing bands, museum visits, shopping, working out, taking a class, going for a hike, even going to dinner ALONE. 

When you’re by yourself, you’re putting yourself in a situation to be super approachable! You just have to be open to it and a little bit proactive. The key 🔑  is finding other people who are alone and chatting them up. It may be intimidating, but going out alone is more common than you think. The worst that can happen if you try to talk to someone is that they aren’t interested – it’s not personal, and you’ve put yourself out there! Which is a huge achievement and that’s all that matters.

USE HEY! VINA

I swear on mine and every cute puppy’s life: I am not just saying this because I work for VINA.  The Hey! VINA app is simply just a really, really awesome way to meet new friends. I’ve been using it since it first arrived in Boston, and I’ll use it forever, probably. The cool part is that every single vina on the app has already made a personal pledge to meet new people! So there’s no pressure – just find someone you think you might click with and meet up! Try organizing a vina meet-up with a few friends from the app – you’ll find your new squad in no time.

 

I would looove for this to turn into an ongoing dialogue. Comment below your story and/or any tips you’ve collected on your journey to meeting new people when you’re new in town! 👯😻