SUNDAY STYLE ROUNDUP: 5 VINA STYLES TO STEAL IMMEDIATELY

Here at VINA, we’re all about gathering style inspo from our vinas. Lucky for us, there are tons of fashionable, awesome vinas showing off their style on Instagram. While we aren’t personally acquainted with these vinas (we wish), we admire more than their style – we also love their #GirlBoss attitudes and inclusive personal missions.

Check out these 5 vinas you should be stealing outfit ideas from right now:

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@IMJENNIM – JENN IM (CLOTHESENCOUNTERS ON YOUTUBE)

You may know Jenn from her YouTube days, but this blogger is so much more. She’s a designer, stylist, and makeup artist who can boast some serious #ootd chops. Check out her travel hauls for major overseas fashion inspo.

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@FRIDACASHFLOW – GABRIELLE RICHARDSON

Co-founder and curator for the Art Hoe Collective, which is run by and for artists of color, this stylish artist, model, and activist definitely knows what’s up. Smart and beautiful, she’s a Renaissance woman who uses her artistic eye in her fashion and her Instagram photography – we can’t get enough of it.

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@YOUMENFASHION – FRANCIS DIVE

This self-proclaimed “rookie” fashion blogger from San Francisco is anything but amateur. From her flawless photos to her outfits that are always on point, Francis is a style blogger to look out for. We love that her fashion sense is accessible to women of all body types (and salaries). BRB while we go cop those sunglasses!

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@HARINEF – HARI NEF

Trans activist, supermodel, and actress – what can’t Hari do? From her TED talk to her role on Amazon’s Transparent, she’s the type of outspoken and stylish vina we love. She seamlessly blends high fashion with street style inspo for that cool-girl look we all wish we could pull off as effortlessly as she does.

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@HARLINGROSS – HARLING ROSS

Harling is ManRepeller’s social media maven. She’s partial to fun prints and always has perfect pix (thank you, profesh ManRepeller photographer). We love her young, fresh face and daring outfits.

Who are your fave Instagram vinas? Tell us below!

(Feature image of Jenn Im and squad by her BFF @soothingsista)

DROP THE COMPETITION AND BUILD YOUR #GIRLGANG

As powerful and motivated vinas, competition is in our nature. Often, it can push us to work harder and improve our skills. Just look at the Olympics – in order to be the best in the world you have to size up your competition and find ways to outperform them. It forces you to completely dedicate yourself to your craft and achieve great accomplishments.

Even with all the benefits of competition, sometimes the positive spirit of it can be lost. Women have been taught to compare ourselves to others which can make us question our own self-worth. These types of feelings can be detrimental to our own growth and self-improvement, especially when they manifest as catty or cliquey behavior.

As vinas we need to band together to appreciate and learn from each other’s strengths. An individual is limited on how much experience she can gain on her own. When you learn from the challenges and achievements of your fellow vinas, you can instantly gain so much more knowledge and inspiration. Building a community of vinas who share and collaborate elevates everyone and brings your work to new heights.

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Can we be a part of this girl gang? (📸: @andreaschoice)

I began blogging a couple years ago and after working completely on my own for about 6 months I started to feel isolated, uninspired, and frustrated. It wasn’t until I attended a blogger event at San Francisco Fashion Week that I met some fellow bloggers who have helped me achieve so much more with my own blog.

We meet on a regular basis and have working sessions to discuss pain points, brainstorm, and collaborate on projects. They are my first point on contact when I am faced with a blogging decision or obstacle. I gain so much when we share our experiences and are frank and honest about hardships. Sometimes just knowing that someone else has been through the same experiences you are going through is enough to give you the strength to keep pushing forward. Can you say #SquadGoals?

Supporting the success of others doesn’t take away from your own hard work. And when your time comes around, your girl gang will be there to celebrate your success with you. Let’s bring out the best and elevate each other!

How do you and your vinas support each other? Share in the comments!

(Featured image via @brandymelvilleusa)

HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS AT HOSTELS

Whether traveling in a group or traveling alone, staying at hostels is the most affordable and most fun option for lodging (in my opinion). Shared rooms, hosted events, and an in-house bar are just some of the ways that hostels foster the perfect environment for meeting other travelers and locals.

CHAT UP THE STAFF

Young and old, people who work at hostels are usually some of the most outgoing, friendly, and helpful people you’ll meet during your travels. Their job is literally all about meeting people, taking groups on guided tours, and giving travelers tips about their home city. They are easy to talk to because it’s their job to make your stay wondrous and they generally love helping travelers. Ask them where they like to go out on their nights off – maybe they’ll invite you along. 😉

GO TO THE BAR

Many hostels in metropolitan cities have a communal area with a bar. Bars are notoriously great places to meet other people. While chatting and drinking, you’re guaranteed to meet some cool travel buddies.

EAT A COMMUNAL MEAL

Many hostels also offer communal, family-style meals in their common areas at least once a day. Not only is this a great way to save some $$ (it’s often included in the price of your bed), but it’s also a great place to meet friends while chowing down.

TAKE A GUIDED TOUR

If your hostel offers guided tours of the city that you’re visiting, take advantage! Like the communal meals, these tours are often included in the price of your bed and are usually led by one of the friendly hostel staff. Join a tour, meet some fellow travelers, and see the sights!

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Maybe one of your roomies will want to do yoga with you on the patio! (📸: @casagraciabcn)

TALK TO YOUR ROOMIES

Chances are you’ll be sharing a room with at least one other person and in many cases with several other people. Get to know your roomies, and find pals for day excursions, tours, and meals!

What are your favorite things about staying in hostels while traveling? Let us know in the comments!

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THE THREE C’S OF DORM DECORATING

One of the best parts about moving to college is getting to decorate your dorm room. Mostly, so that your room can stop looking like a jail cell and more like your new home.

However, since most of us aren’t blessed with singles, it might be a bit of a challenge to decorate your room when there’s another person (or two…or even three other people) with a completely different style, sleeping two feet away. It’s best to discuss and decide well before move-in day! That way if you and your roommate want to split the cost of DIY materials or store-bought items, you can both show up with your half of the decor and jump straight into making your shared space AH-MAZING!

There are ways to create a cohesive living space with your roomie while still maintaining your personal flair. Just follow the three C’s of dorm decorating (can I trademark that?):

COORDINATE

Having a short convo with your roomie about how your individual vision for decorating will go a long way with deciding what to bring and what not to bring on move-in day. Also, talking about your fave (and not-so fave) aspects of your bedrooms at home might allow you to find some common decor likes and dislikes that you can incorporate into the new space.

CREATE

When it comes to dorm decoration, DIY is your new best friend. Find some crafty inspo from The Sorry Girls. I’m obsessed with the video below. They give so many cool hacks and DIYs to spice up a boring dorm room! Also, if you check out their channel, they have lots of other fun DIY tutorials that can help make your room major design goals.

COMPROMISE

Your roomie may not be into the idea of you bringing your well-loved, albeit sort of stinky, bean bag chair from home. Expect to make compromises, and try to find some middle ground so that both you and your roommate are comfy and love the space.

BONUS: REMEMBER THAT YOUR SPACE IS YOUR SPACE

Okay, this isn’t one of the C’s, but it is important to remember. In the end, your space is YOURS. So if you can’t coordinate, create together, or compromise, you gotta just do you. Keep your things confined to your half of the room, and decorate as you please. It’s not ideal, but sometimes, the fourth C… is clash. And that’s okay.

(Featured image via @urbanoutfitters)

WHAT TO DO WHEN THE GREEN MONSTER STRIKES

It’s hard to know how to navigate your romantic and platonic relationships when jealousy rears its ugly head. If you, your bae, or your vinas find the green monster coming out to play, we have some advice for not letting it destroy everything.

IF YOU’RE THE JEALOUS ONE…

Sometimes jealousy sneaks up on you. Let’s say that you’ve developed a severe case of #FOMO over two of your vinas hanging out without you. Or maybe you’ve really started to resent your significant other’s BFF? Whatever the situation, in most cases, jealousy is pretty unwarranted and unnecessary (although completely natural and understandable). Luckily though, once you recognize it, you can work towards squashing the beef internally.

If you find yourself experiencing jealously, the best way to overcome it is to recognize where it’s coming from and take steps to change your own behavior and thought process. Got #FOMO? Make plans with your friends all together! Try to remember that them hanging out together is not a reflection on you personally or your relationships with either of them, even if it feels like it at first.

Or are you jealous of Bae’s relationship with their BFF? Try to get to know that BFF better. The closer you two become, the less jealous or insecure you’ll feel about their friendship with your partner. Plus, if Bae likes them, chances are you will, too.

IF YOUR BAE OR VINA IS JEALOUS OF THE OTHER…

This is certainly a tricky situation. Chances are the jealous friend or partner won’t express their true feelings outright. Their jealousy will probably manifest as passive-aggressive digs, stand-offishness, or flat-out anger that has no rhyme or reason. The source, of course, will be jealousy.

If you recognize this, there are things you can do to make your partner or your vina feel more secure. Not so surprisingly, these are similar to the steps you would take for yourself. Being proactive will save you and your relationships a lot of time and trouble. Take care to spend a little extra time with the hurt party. Schedule a weekly brunch with your vina, or a date-night with your beau. Encourage them to spend some time extra time together (with or without you). Jealousy often stems from a misunderstanding of the intentions or behavior of another person. If the two of them can get to know each other a little better, they’ll feel less insecure about their relationships with you.

Have you dealt with jealousy in your interpersonal relationships? How did you handle it?

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HEY! FAQ: WHAT DO I DO IF MY VINA FLAKES? 😤

While we always encourage vinas to meet up ASAP, we know sometimes things don’t work out the way you planned. Everyone’s busy, and everyone has lives outside of Hey! VINA. Hopefully, none of your vinas will ever flake, and you’ll meet lots of lovely ladies. But if you find that you’ve been cancelled on or if you’re having trouble making concrete plans with someone, we’ve got some tips for you:

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Tick tock, tick tock… (📸: @egle_ma)

LET HER MAKE THE PLAN

A vina is less likely to flake if the meet-up was her idea! Let her pick the activity, coffee shop, or bar as well as the time or place if you can be flexible. If she makes the plan, you know she’ll be free and interested in what you’re going to do together.

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CONFIRMING IS 🔑

Don’t be afraid to send a confirmation! Message your vina the day before or the morning of just to check in, say hey!, and confirm the deets of your meet-up. It’s good to send a reminder just in case, and let her know how excited you are to meet her 👯.

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These vinas had no problem meeting up for a cute Instagram photo shoot 😉 (📸: @atnirvana)

FOOL ME ONCE…

We definitely suggest giving your vina a second chance, even after she flakes the first time. But if she cancels on you twice (or more), it’s time to move on. At the end of the day, a flakey vina might not be as invested as you are to making friends. But have no fear, we know that if you keep swiping you’ll find someone as enthusiastic and reliable as you in no time.

Do you have any good advice for what to do when a friend flakes? Let us know in the comments!

(Featured image via elitedaily.com)

WHERE TO GET YOUR HAIR DONE WITH YOUR VINAS

I am pretty much a beauty school dropout (Cue in that song from Grease).

So, thank god there are people who have a handle on this sort of thing. I’ve spent years navigating the many ways in which I can get away with doing or not doing my hair. I’ve come to the conclusion that no matter how you tackle it there is something to be gained and loved in each of these ways to get your new ‘do. Find what suits you best, or try something new.

YOUR VINA IN TRAINING

This is my go-to method for my hair. I recommend this for more laid back cuts like a regular trim. Chances are that you know a vina who does hair on the side or is just finishing beauty school. This is a great way to kick them some extra cash and keep things low-key. Invite them over, and have some wine in the backyard while you get a trim. It keeps the budget in check and your ends happy.

SALON STYLE

There is something so communal about going to a salon, especially one you visit on the regular. There is a busy bustle and bubbly water, followed by a little gossip and deep conditioning treatments. The whole affair can make you feel extra special and pampered. Find someone who understands your hair, and let it become a regular part of your routine. Everyone knows a good hairdresser is just like a good therapist: always there when you need them and full of good advice.

YOUTUBE AND SOME GOOD CUTTERS

Be careful with this one. How many times have we had a bottle of wine and decided we would look oh-so-cute with some bangs this season? Things can get a little dicey. But, if you’ve got a steady hand and some really nice scissors (order specialty ones online), then you’re good to go.

AT A BEAUTY SCHOOL

Find your local hairdressing school, and make an appointment there for anything, from a new color to trims to whatever else Pinterest can dream up. Everyone there will eventually work in a salon, but they’ve got hours of study and practice to log in. Your appointment will help them out. Who knows – maybe you’ll meet your soon-to-be hairdressing soul mate, and they will have a client for life. Plus, you will be receiving salon services at a fraction of the cost!

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HOW TO PREP FOR AN EMPTY NEST

While not technically a clinical condition, Empty Nest Syndrome is real and it affects parents all over the world. But not all hope is lost. There are things you can do before your child moves out on their own to prepare for the transition. We dug around a little, and it turns out that research shows it gives parents the perfect opportunity to expand their network and create deep, lasting bonds with new and old friends.

GET IN SOME QUALITY TIME

This one might be obvious, but Shelley Emling from the Huffington Post says she wished she had taken advantage of her son’s availability the summer before he went away to college.  It’s important to appreciate the little moments that you might miss when your kid moves out.  Family dinners, days at the ballpark, or even simply walking the dog together can be nice ways to get in some quality time before they fly the metaphorical nest.

SET EXPECTATIONS

If you’re worried about losing touch, be proactive! Set some expectations for visits home and even weekly phone calls. Don’t make it a chore, but let your kid know you’re excited to hear all about what they’re up to. It’s okay to tell them you’ll miss them – they’re going to miss you too!

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KNOW THAT THIS IS EXCITING TIME FOR EVERYONE

It may be hard at first, but as most parents can attest to – it’s an exciting time for your child and for you. Even the American Psychological Association reported that “this period can be one of increased satisfaction and improved relationships” for parents. So take advantage! You now have more time to really focus on your social relationships – whether that’s with your other family members, your partner, or your friends.

For all our rockin’ moms out there, try Hey! Vina to find some other moms going through the same thing. You can bond over your empty nest and then find something to do together in your free time. Take up a new hobby together, focus on fitness, or finally try all those Pinterest recipes you’ve been pinning all year.

How are you preparing for an empty nest? Let us know in the comments below!

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3 EASY STEPS TO TURN THAT FRIEND-CRUSH INTO A BFF

Everyone has some fringe friends. They’re usually a regular part of your routine: your hairdresser, barista, Jenny in cycling class, a friend of a friend. Or maybe she sits behind you in Econ, or she’s a fellow mom who has admirable taste in printed pants.

These women are on the periphery, and you probably even hold regular and good convos with them, compliment each other, know about their latest #ladybrag. How do we make the leap from someone you chat up every Tuesday morning at your regular coffeehouse to a true blue friend, the kind you can call in need and tell you which swimsuit not to buy. If you’ve got someone in mind, we have 3 tips for you to take your connection to the next level:

1. BREAK THE MOLD

This first step is crucial because it sets forth a new path for the two of you. You must step outside the regular routine of your encounters. This means you could introduce a new, perhaps more personal, topic to the talks. Share something about yourself, or better yet ask them something new. Gauge how well this goes and perhaps repeat this step a few more times to get ready for step two.

2. MAKE IT 1-ON-1

Ask her to do something else besides chat while the carpool lane crawls along or as you sweat through hot yoga. We’ve got tons of great first vina date ideas here on the zine if you are running low on creativity. It is probably a good idea to keep this first date an one-on-one thing, even though your might feel more comfortable with your other friends there. But sometimes, it’s overwhelming to jump into a convo with friends who already know the stories, the references, and all the inside jokes in between. Give your new friendship its own space to grow roots.

3. DON’T LET IT FIZZLE

Keep that newly baked friendship at room temp by following up after your initial hangout. You can do this via text, keep her in the loop or share funny memes while at work. Or, invite her out the next time with a few of your other vinas and make an effort to keep her in the conversation. A friendship is a relationship, and it needs attention, water (stay hydrated, ladies) and some love. But, don’t go overboard and send her a million crown, cat, diamond emojis every other minute. Play it cool. You’re cool. You got this.

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FIND YOUR NEW BFF WHILE WORKING UP A SWEAT 💪👟

No one needs to tell us once again how important it is to get our bodies up and moving. Sometimes, though, we need a little bit of motivation. And the best motivation is a workout buddy. A vina who will get you off your butt when all you want to do is stay at home and binge-watch your favorite reality TV show is key to a healthy lifestyle.

Our current lady squad can enable our more unhealthy habits (don’t worry – we’re guilty, too), and we may need to find some #fitspo vinas to add to our social circle. We’re a fan of using the Hey! VINA app to easily find a new friend for that new workout class, but we have a few tips on how to find friends IRL!

Here’s how to find your new BFF while working out:

TRY A NEW CLASS

This advice works for all walks of life, but is especially true to the gym: the best way to find new friends is to try a new class. You’ll meet tons of new people and develop a sense of camaraderie when you’re all getting your butts kicked by that seemingly impossible HIIT workout. Don’t know what to say to break the ice? Try some of our fool-proof friend pick-up lines!

BEFRIEND YOUR PERSONAL TRAILER

No one would make a better motivator than the girl who literally works out for a living. You can learn a lot from her, too – from proper stretching technique to the cutest workout clothing stores! Plus, in my experience, these women are so friendly and open to making friends. They work one-on-one with people all day so you know they’re going to be kind and charismatic. Don’t be afraid to suggest grabbing a coffee or tea with your trainer next week!  ☕️🍵

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BRING SNACKS 🍌🍊🍏

Everyone wants to be friends with the girl with all the yummy, healthy, post-workout treats.  Snacking together is a great way to socialize after a workout! Share healthy recipes, snacking favorites, and fave “cheat” foods with your new friends. Trust me, you’ll be the most popular vina in your yoga class, bootcamp, or walking group if you provide the noms.

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