REVERSE BODY TRANSFORMATION: WHAT IS IT?

Reverse body transformation—what is it? It’s what happens when you realize that whatever you’ve been doing has been working for your body but not for your happiness. We take our hats off to anyone who has stuck it out and lost the weight, but we also have tremendous respect for the women who have decided that enough is enough. What is good for one is not necessarily good for another, and the sooner everyone understands that, the better.

While one person may feel exhilaration every time they eat peas and carrots and avoid chocolates and cakes, others feel miserable and measured. When your happiness is dependent on what society’s ideas of happiness is, and when it’s rooted in what you believe is acceptable and standard, you will lose yourself in that standard. It won’t matter how much weight you lose, you will never feel like you measure up. Self-love is about so much more than what we see in the mirror.

I’ve done both the transformation and the reverse transformation, and while I can’t really choose which one made me happier, I can say that I enjoyed having a body goal. Mostly because it taught me that anything with the right amount of discipline is a one-way train to achieving goals. What I learned from the reverse transformation is that I guilt myself way too much. I’m my biggest critic, and I body shame myself probably between 20 and 30 times a day. We are so harsh on ourselves, to the point where it’s hard to take a compliment because you’ve told yourself so many negative things. You couldn’t possibly believe something positive is true.

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If your spirit is telling you (whether it’s a whisper or a scream) to STOP what you’re doing and take stock of who you are and who you want to be, that is a good place to start asking yourself if you’re really investing in your own happiness, or in an idea of happiness that you have somehow forced yourself to believe.

I am not at all saying that choosing to live a healthy lifestyle is taboo and you shouldn’t do it. I am also not saying that you should let yourself go and not give two hoots about your body. No, the complete opposite. We only have one body, we can’t trade it in for a new one when it’s dead. I’m simply saying that if something isn’t working for you and you are unhappy all the time because you’re hungry, or your lifestyle change is causing you to binge eat your favorite foods, or if you hate yourself for missing a workout and eating that Oreo, then maybe it’s not for you. Maybe you should try something else.  Something that you actually enjoy doing that will keep you healthy, motivated, and most of all HAPPY!

Diane Flores was a bodybuilder when she decided enough is enough. On her website, Living the Goddess Life, she talks about winning 1st place and the overall in the masters division in her last competition and even then feeling incomplete and unhappy. Today, she looks happier than she’s ever been, loves herself to the fullest, and teaches women all over the world what it means to feel sexy, how to chuck that insecurity, and why losing weight in order to feel sexy is a no go.

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Megan Jayne Crabbe’s transformation is absolutely insane. She said that her new body is her happy body and that happiness isn’t a size. Totally agree, girl! Crabbe struggled with an eating disorder in her teens and almost lost her life because of it. That’s when she started her transformation to a healthier, happier version of the always beautiful her.

Body ideals turn us into monsters. We hate ourselves because we believe that those women who have the six pack and the chiseled, lean arms, and the 15% body fat have it all and if we could only look like that we would be happy. It works for them, it doesn’t mean that it will work for you. And remember, it may look like they have it all because of all that, but chances are they have just as many insecurities as you.

I just love Jennifer Lawrence’s idea about self-love. She was interviewed by Cosmopolitan in 2014 and stated that she sees herself as a Victoria’s Secret model all the time. That is a darn great place to be. I sincerely hope that every one of us can one day wake up and just be happy with the way we look and how we are built. That our minds are not consumed with hurtful confidence-breaking words about our perfect bodies, and that we will just love ourselves and see ourselves the way our loved ones see us. As the person we truly are, and that person is perfect.

Transform your idea of beauty and happiness with all the vinas you’re about to meet on the Hey! VINA app now!

10 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR VINA: CONVO STARTERS FOR YOUR NEXT FRIEND DATE

Hey, vinas! If you’re like me and have a hard time starting a conversation with someone you just met, fear not! You’re totally not alone. To help break that ice (and award silence) with soon-to-be friends, check out these 10 conversation starters to put to use on your next vina date!

1. WHAT’S ONE THING YOU LOVE TO DO?

A hobby? Guilty pleasure? Simple passtime? This one can be anything!

2. WHAT DO YOU NEVER LEAVE HOME WITHOUT?

Let me guess, cell phone? Same.

3. COFFEE OR TEA?

A must know, obvi. Whatever the answer may be, you can use this one to plan a second date at your fav cafe!

4. WHAT’S YOUR GO-TO ACCESSORY?

Whether it’s your fav pair of fuzzy socks, or a gold plated CK watch, we’ve all got a little accessorize in us!

5. IF YOU COULD LEARN A SECOND LANGUAGE, WHAT WOULD IT BE?

Besides your native tongue, of course! French, Latin, Mandarin, Swahili…the possibilities are endless!

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6. WHAT IS THE CRAZIEST THING YOU’VE EVER DONE?

Think hard, vinas. We all get a little crazy sometimes!

7. SECRET TALENTS?

What are you hiding form the world, you talented gal?!

8. WHO IS YOUR FAV ARTIST?

Art comes in all shapes and sizes, so this could mean a lot of things for you and your vina! A painter, musician, sculptor, poet, dancer, photographer…again, endless possibilities!

9. IF YOU COULD ONLY DO ONE THING FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, WHAT WOULD IT BE?

Dream big, vinas! You only get one life…or something like that 😉

10. HAVE YOU EVER TRAVELED THE WORLD? IF NOT, DO YOU WANT TO?

How about the country? The continent? Find out just how much of this big, beautiful world you and your vina have seen! And maybe even learn a little bit about foreign cultures!

Swipe on over to the Hey! VINA app and find your perfect match to get chatting with! 

GASSING UP YOUR VINAS AND WHY IT’S IMPORTANT

There is something electrifying about women having each other’s back. Women who stand by each other in the best of times AND the worst of times, that is an indescribable thing. When women stand together, we change the world. Statutes are amended, minds are changed, and the world just becomes a better place overall.

When I see pictures of the Suffrage Movement – women all over the world marching for a right to vote – or pictures from August 9th, 1956 when 20,000 South African women marched against the proposed amendments to the Urban Areas Act, or the women in D.C. on January 21st, 2017 wearing pink #pussyhats, I see strength. I see power. I see what can happen when women do what women do best – love.

When I bawl my eyes out to my vinas and they say to me “you’ve got this” or “you can handle it” or “you’re doing great, just keep going!” Something in my soul shifts focus.  When you are so down that you can’t even help yourself up, there is something amazing about the strength of a sisterhood. Having the kind of girls who will either pull you up by any means necessary or go down there and get you themselves. It’s amazing when you can look at someone and genuinely say “you make my life better.”

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It’s SO important to surround yourself with empowering women who see your value and support your every move. It’s important to create and maintain bonds that will motivate you and be there when you can’t be there for yourself.

Here at Hey! VINA we believe that women are the glue that holds the world together. We are champions. We are warriors. We can do anything we set our minds to, and if we stand together and build each other up, we will do great things. It’s important to have that support system of ‘gassed up’ vinas around you because, as women, we can be so hard on ourselves that we forget what we can actually do. Can you imagine the change in the world if every single woman was as brave as a lion? Can you imagine how confident we would be if we all collectively decided to gas each other up? No more hatred, no more division, no more putting others down to lift yourself up. No more jealousy, or resentment, or judgment! Just imagine a world where every single woman you pass compliments you and you compliment her back. That’s a world I wanna live in!

Here’s a challenge for you, vinas. Today, as you’re going about your daily life, compliment as many women (known or unknown) as you can. Nice shoes. Lovely bag.  Gorgeous eyes. If you can get a little personal, do. You’re the strongest woman I know.  You are such a cheerful giver. You are doing so well, girl! Look at you go! You are the smartest person I know and if anybody can do this, it’s you. Think about how you feel when someone notices the work you’ve put into your life, and then go out and make them feel it too! Gas it up, vinas!

Still looking for your girl squad to gas up? No problem! Hit up the Hey! VINA app pronto and start spreading the good vibes!

MEET OUR INTERNS: FALL ’18

The year is winding down to an end, and we’re taking a look back. This fall brought some amazing marketing and editorial interns our way; their game was fierce and most definitely encapsulated the VINA mission of empowered women empowering women. Before saying goodbye, we’ve asked them to share an insider look at what defines them – check it out!

Mackenzie McHugh

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What is your guilty pleasure?

My guilty pleasure is binge-watching my favorite shows on Netflix even though I’ve already seen them all from start to finish a good 264 times.

Which five emojis best describe you?

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Which famous vinas — from history or pop culture — would you swipe right on?

A few famous gal pals that I would TOTALLY swipe right on and add to my VINA gang are, first and foremost: Taylor Swift, the goddess of writing and all things music. Nina Dobrev, Ellen Degeneres, Jackie Kennedy, Princess Diana and Marge Piercy, to name a few! All of those women have, in one way or another, impacted both society and culture, as well as my personal life monumentally.

What has been your favorite thing about working for VINA?

It has been the sense of community and friendship within the workplace that you just don’t get to experience everywhere, especially in professional settings. People often forget that we’re all just people; it’s nice to be a part of something that puts humanity first. We’re all literally “hyping each other up” 24/7. Plus it’s loads of fun! Writing, editing, searching for that perfect photo to make your story pop, and feeling like your words mean something. It’s what I love to doit’s my happy place.

Ladybrag! What is something you’re proud of?

Something I’m proud of is my perseverance. I try my hardest at everything I do, whether that be baking a pie or writing an essay that counts for half the semester’s grade. I’m not where I want to be yet in life, but I’m having fun getting there, and I’m doing it to the best of my abilityand that’s all a gal can ask for. Life’s a climb, but the view is great.

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GRACE GRAHAM, BARUCH COLLEGE

What is your guilty pleasure?

“Vanderpump Rules.” Can’t wait for the next season!

Which five emojis best describe you?

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Which famous vinas — from history or pop culture — would you swipe right on?

I would definitely swipe right on Kate Chastain, hands down. Michelle Obama and Ruth Bader Ginsburg would also be hard right swipes.

What has been your favorite thing about working for VINA?

As an editorial intern, my favorite thing about working for VINA has been reading all of the articles written by VINA users! They always cover a wide range of topics and always have something interesting to say.

 Ladybrag! What’s something you’re proud of?

Something I’m proud of is balancing my course load, internship, work/study job and DIII tennis schedule while maintaining a stellar GPA! It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.

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SUJIN LEE, YONSEI UNIVERSITY 

What is your guilty pleasure?

Shopping. I shop for fun, when I’m sad or angry, to commemorate a happy occasion, or just when I’m bored. It could be anything from groceries, clothes, books or beddings. Lately, I’ve been hunting for holiday decor and having the guiltiest and most pleasurable time.

Which five emojis best describe you?

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Which famous vinas — from history or pop culture — would you swipe right on?

Phoebe from Friends – I think she was hugely undermined for such a unique character that had so much potential. But I don’t know if I would have had the guts to swipe right on her – her bio would have looked very sketchy or psychic, or both.

What has been your favorite thing about working for VINAZINE?

Being constantly exposed to all that women have to share. I appreciated that we were not only about accomplishments, happiness and fun, but also about being able to share our experiences of overcoming our darkest times and hold out a hand for others that are going through hardships. When I look at the monthly story sheet and realize that so many are willing to share so much, I take a moment to savor how endearing that is. Just being constantly reminded of all this was a kind of a triumph for me working at VINA.

Ladybrag! What is something you’re proud of?

The year 2018. 2018 has been a year full of changes, achievements, and failures for me. I moved to a new country, to the other side of the globe where I knew literally no one. I re-learned how to get by around the town, how to do laundry, and how to talk and act like the people around me. I took a chance and finally tapped into my creative side, starting with photography and then onto drafting and painting, all of which I was too afraid to do in the past. I started playing a new sport through which I made some of the most valuable memories and even more valuable friendships. I also learned how to express frustration and anger, and not hold onto it and wait for it to just disappear. It taught me how to acknowledge my feelings, positive or negative, and now I know that that’s how I respect and cherish myself. And through all that, I learned what it feels like to own and live my best life. So I’m proud of all the ups and downs of my journey this amazing year, and cannot wait for what more is on its way!

FRIEND OR FAKE? HOW TO SPOT A FLAKE

So you’re looking to expand your trusted tribe, build a tribe from scratch, or maybe you’re feeling lonely after moving to a new city – officially making you the new kid in town. Whoever and wherever you are in the world, and whatever your friendship goals may be, differentiating between a genuine gal pal and a flaky fake can be a tough call to make. Sometimes, it even feels like a game which makes it even harder to keep your sanity in tact!

For some, the allure of a new friendship fizzles out when there’s no game to be played, or no chase to be had. And many fledgling friendships fizzle out after barely stumbling over the starting block. You got beyond the awkward “hello, how are ya doing” intro message? Kudos – you’re doing better than most!

But how can you find someone whose wavelength is a perfect match, and is your ideal friendship catch? How can you spot a friend from a fake? Heck, it’s hard enough to get the conversation flowing, never mind being on alert for the fiery red flags. So, to give you a heads up on spotting fakes and staying away from flakes, check out these tips to identify whether that new pal is a forever friend, or a total fake.

TRUST PATTERNS, NOT APOLOGIES

So, you’ve been trying to plan that get-together for like, forever. And the excuses have been coming in thick and fast, right? There’s a pattern emerging but you’d rather not admit it. Sure, in your mind this gal pal has so much potential, and you’ve got so much in common. You like all the same movies, drink the same Starbucks, even frequent the same salons and shopping malls. Sure, you tell yourself they’re just a bit manically busy, and you may even feel a bit sorry for their frenetically paced life. But remember, people make time for those they truly care about, and one is never too busy for something that’s important to them. Would you treat a potential love interest with an erratic pattern the same? Probably not. So now it’s time to admit to yourself that this gal pal is a no go! You deserve better!

SPOT THE RED FLAGS

Ever paid for lunch but never received an offer to reciprocate? You offered your time to help with something, and it wasn’t well received? You went out of your way to do something, but it went completely unnoticed? These are sure signs that your friendship isn’t a two-way street. Vina, it’s time to jump on that elevator and get yourself the hell outta there!

KEEP YOUR STANDARDS HIGH: NO COMPROMISE

You’re polite, honest, kind and thoughtful. You’re as punctual as you can be, and super accommodating (we all need a little extra time occasionally), but your new vina doesn’t quite match. Stay firm on your non-negotiables – your standards. Those are the intrinsic values that make you unique, wholly, and wonderfully you. You deserve a gal pal who makes you feel appreciated. You must stay sweet, and if she doesn’t reciprocate, it’s time to speak with your feet and WALK.

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DON’T QUESTION YOUR WORTH

The moment you start to question your own worth is the moment you run. Did I say the wrong thing? Was I too eager? Was I too kind? Have I given too much away? Chances are if your new friendship is triggering these anxieties in the early stages, it’s probably not going to go away. This friend might not be the one for you. Good friendships are solidly grounded on good communication – both ways. Never question your worth, vinas. And never let your worth be found in the hands of another person, or determined by their perception of you!

Friendship footnote: If the friendship is still fresh, it’s important to allow for some give and take – your gal friend may just need a little time to open up, and that’s totally fine. Some vinas need to take their time to truly sparkle and shine!

Head over to the Hey! VINA app and start swiping to find your true tribe!

FRIEND DATES: HOW TO MAKE YOUR NEXT VINA PLAN A SUCCESS

A party of one is never fun. Vina plans are so exciting to put together, and equally as fun to attend! It’s a great place to make a new friend and do something fun at the same time. You meet people that already share a common interest, so you can pretty much guarantee that no one will end up staring into their latte because it’s more interesting than the conversation. But what happens when you host a VINA plan and no one shows up? This vina knows and can tell you firsthand how to make your next one a success!

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THE UGLY TRUTH

You have to admit that when someone selects ‘Maybe’ to a plan that you’re hosting, you get a little flutter of hope that it’s going to turn into a yes. Truth is, people are busy and things come up, so don’t take it personally. And sometimes staying in alone and watching Netflix beats a night out with new people, and that’s perfectly okay. You are looking to plan something that will allow you to meet people on your schedule doing something you like, so if you don’t get any responses, chances are you just haven’t caught the attention of the right people yet! Don’t lose faith!

TRY, TRY AGAIN

So no one RSVP’d with a yes to your last plan. Take a look at what you wanted to do, and when you were offering it. Time and place are essential when making plans with other people, especially when those people are new to your circle. Try switching it up. Instead of brunch at the crack of dawn on a Wednesday, try Friday night drinks at 6 p.m. Changing up the time, venue, or day will help expand your pool of vinas who are interested. Take a look at the location and the distance from other vinas too. Walking distance is good for big cities, while our countryside vinas will have to plan for driving time.

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Although I live 15 minutes from NYC and I would love nothing more than to visit a museum with some vinas, it’s just not feasible. I’m a single mom that has her son alternating weekends, and when I don’t have my son, I like to spend my time visiting my boyfriend. For most of us time is sacred, so sacrificing it for a new experience can be challenging. I usually have to wait for just the right time when I know I will have alone time and not be committed to someone, or something else.

SPREAD YOUR WINGS, YOU SOCIAL BUTTERFLY

The best way to host a vina plan is to attend a vina plan. Revolutionary right? Find a plan in the VINA app that you want to go to. While you’re there, network, socialize, and make friends (that’s what you’re there for). By going to a plan hosted by someone else, you are already taking the preparation portion out of making your own plan. Then as everyone is gathered together, the next idea is bound to come up! When it does, jump on the opportunity to make it your own VINA hosted plan! That way, you already have a guaranteed group of gal pals you can count on showing up!

Hosting an event is so much fun! You get to pick out where you want to go and spend it with people that want to be there too. It’s a bummer when no one else responds, but just remember, it’s not you! Soon enough, vinas will be lining up to hang with you, so get out there and meet them!

Ready to host your next big event? Download the Hey! VINA app now and get planning!

HOW TO MEET NEW FRIENDS AND GET MORE SWIPES ON HEY! VINA

We can all pretty much agree that the Hey! VINA app is AWESOME, right?! The whole concept of meeting new friends in your area with similar interests, hobbies, family lives, etc. what’s better than that?! Just having someone to grab a glass of wine with is honestly everything.

As all strong women do, we crave a sense of community and quality relationships. But even with all the technology out there designed to help us “connect,” it’s still easier than ever to feel lonelier than ever. I mean, come on. Making new friends is hard enough without having to make the first move. Nobody wants to be the one to send the “Hey! Let’s be besties!” text.

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Since I’ve joined the VINA community, I’ve found myself more open to finding those new vina connections through all of the groups and personality quizzes the platform offers. It makes it so much easier and comfortable to get out there and find your vina gang! Check out these 5 tricks to get more swipes and find that gang even faster!

CHOOSING A PROFILE PICTURE THAT SHOWCASES YOUR PERSONALITY

I know this sounds insanely cheesy, and maybe a bit obvious, but it makes a big difference! Your profile picture is the first thing potential besties will see, so you want to make sure it’s unapologetically you. And of course, a good smile never hurts. It brightens up your face, radiates positivity, and everyone loves a friendly face! I would also recommend a pic of you doing something you love; hiking, sipping on coffee, or just chilling in your living room with a glass of wine. Other vinas love seeing someone they can relate to, and are more likely to swipe right on someone they feel is a fellow soul sista!

FILL OUT YOUR PROFILE COMPLETELY

Yes, the whole thing! Besides the basics like your name and birthday, you have the option to expand the radius of vinas that can see your profile, and that you can connect with. Giving yourself and extra 25 miles will add a whole new group of vinas to your possibility pool! Beyond that, choose your age range, and describe yourself in 5 emojis, who doesn’t love that?! The more you fill out your profile, the more vinas you’ll attract, which equals the best friend jackpot!

MAKE YOUR “ABOUT ME” DESCRIPTION POP

Everyone is using this app to meet friends, so you can leave that part out. Tell us about your love of dancing to Ariana Grande in your bath robe, how you collect Golden Girls memorabilia, or how you whip up big Sunday dinners with the whole fam every weekend. Those are the things that make you unique and help your profile stand out, so be as specific as possible. You are an original, tell the world about what makes you special!

JOIN MULTIPLE COMMUNITIES

This is a space where you can let people know what you like to do, who you are interested in hanging out with, what activities you’re most likely to be found doing, or what new groups you wanna explore. This allows other vinas to relate to you on multiple levels, and get to know a little more about your interests that weren’t included in your “about me” rant.

BECOME A VINA VIP

This option does cost money, but so does that Starbucks pumpkin spice latte you just bought, and having unlimited access to a community of women to make connections with and relate to is worth way more. VINA VIP allows you to get instant matches from your “hey list” so that you can get dittos faster. You can undo your skips in case you want a second look, or your interests and hobbies change, and you have the ability to use the teleport option to change your location to anywhere in the world and meet vinas outside of your local area too! Plus, you get all kinds of new badass features. It’s totally worth the buy!

What are you waiting for?! Download the Hey! VINA app now and start swiping!✌️

THE VINA GUIDE TO BEING A GOOD BOSS

From an employee’s mouth to God’s ears. What your employees love… and what they loathe. Here are simple rules for #bossbabes vinas in management!

HOW TO BE A BOSS

Do: Motivate your team and incentivize. Remember, it’s not always about the money.  Some of us are in the career we are in because we love it!

Don’t: Try to assert your authority by forcing employees to do menial things that you don’t have the energy for. It comes across as useless and needy and the bottom line is that it’s humiliating. Instead of demanding them to do your dirty work for you, make them understand that they are important to you.

Do: Get to know your people, and be known to them by doing things together. Fun team building experiences are always a great way to get to know people. Nobody is the same.  We may have some traits which remind us of each other but each one of us is unique.

Don’t: Expect your employees to be robots with no personal lives. It is unbecoming of a professional person in management to expect a person to not give heed to feelings brought on by personal issues. We are all human beings here and we all have good days and bad days. Acknowledging that a subordinate has feelings is extremely important for good management skills.

Do: Give your people time off. It’s so important to rest. Yes, the company rests on your shoulders but it does on theirs too. Just because they have lesser responsibilities does not mean they have fewer things to care for. No matter what anybody says, each one who is there is dependent on that job for some reason or another. Just because you don’t know what it is, doesn’t mean it’s not important to them.

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Don’t: Set bad examples. With great power comes great responsibility. Need I say more?

Do: Keep your word. Give the people what you promised.

Don’t: Never ever discuss gossip about your coworkers. If you or any other person feels comfortable enough to tell someone you spoke about them, it IS gossip.

Do: Be a good person. Re-evaluate your decisions afterwards. It’s tough to do in a management position because you can’t let people walk all over you. But you don’t have to be a horrible person to be a good manager.

Don’t: Be a nag. If you’re a good manager, you shouldn’t have to ask twice in the first place. Now if they are the problem, what are you doing to improve their skills?

Do: Research good management skills. There’s plenty of material on the market and it’s easy to fall into old, outdated ways of management. Attend a seminar. Take your team leaders with you. It’s important for your people to know that you, as well as them, are constant students of life.

Lastly, make sure to build your girl gang with other #bossbabes. It really does take a village!

Did you know that there are tons of communities on Hey! VINA like Working Moms, Entrepreneurs, Women Who Code and more? Join a community, swipe and meet new vinas like you.👍

IF I COULD BE VINAS WITH ANY CELEB I WOULD CHOOSE – ANNA FARIS

When I thought about this question, the first person that came to mind was Beyonce. I must admit I felt intimidated just thinking of being Yonce’s BFF. I realized that what I value most in a friendship is reciprocation, first of all. I don’t wanna feel like I’m friends with a ghost. And secondly, availability. Let’s be honest, Yonce is a busy girl. And we both have small kids. It sounds practical but if it’s not gonna be work, it’s gonna be performing at Blue’s school. I’d spend more time with her as her assistant.

I thought about it and thought about it some more, and I was watching Overboard one Sunday afternoon and I thought, this girl is the ILLEST. Anna Faris is absolutely my favourite celeb in the world right now. She’s funny, quirky, and doesn’t try too hard. Plus her baby daddy is Chris Pratt, and who doesn’t want to hang out with Star-Lord every once in a while?

WHY WE WOULD WORK AS BFF’S:

We both have steady working hours, so we both kind of have an idea of when we would be working and when we will have time off. We would never be each other’s second choice.

She is absolutely hilarious.  She enjoys making people laugh, I enjoy laughing. Vina match made in heaven!

We share the same philosophy on life which is “Surround yourself with people that are loving and people that you love”. Out with negativity, in with love. That’s a thumbs up from me, Ms. Faris.

We’re both very chill. Her twitter feed (if you don’t follow her on twitter yet, make sure you do- @AnnaKFaris) is essentially a photo-mentary of her life. We definitely have the same idea about

She has a podcast called “Unqualified”!! It won the Shorty Award for best Podcast in 2017. She interviews celebrities and cultural figures and gives listeners relationship and other advice. I don’t have anything to say about how we’re the same here, I just wanted to give her some free publicity because I love her.

We are both moms so doing the mom run for each other would not be a problem – provided that we lived close to each other.

And to convince everyone that we are each other’s spirit animals, we both love cooking, we’re both short and we both have mom crushes on Reese Witherspoon and Kristen Bell!

 

Looking for fellow Anna Faris fans? Download the Hey! VINA app today and start swiping! 

HEY! VINA SUCCESS STORY: HOW THESE HIKING-LOVING STRANGERS IN ATLANTA BECAME BEST VINAS

There is a sense of freedom of moving away and starting anew: a new job, a new apartment, a whole now location to adventure around and find yourself! But have you ever gotten to the point where journeying around a new place feels a bit lonely? Like you just wish you had someone to share it all with?

Our vina, Margaret can agree with that. After hearing about Hey! VINA through the Adulthood Made Easy podcast, Margaret readily signed up and started swiping! “I just moved to Atlanta and was looking for ways to make friends,” she recalls to VINAZINE. “I found it a bit difficult to make friends after college. When I returned home to Connecticut after graduating, I had friends in the area from high school and college; I didn’t think to venture until a few years later.” Excited to meet new people while leaving her comfort-cocoon of childhood friends behind, Margaret was hopeful about VINA.

Although moving to a new city and not knowing anyone is hard, getting out of a relationship and starting anew can be even harder. According to Saira, Hey! VINA was where she went looking for her “girl squad” after a breakup. That’s when she found her nature-loving vina, Margaret.

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“Margaret and I have been there for each other since day 1!” Saira tells us. “Since meeting, we have both gone through our own personal struggles, whether it be dating or just being gals in our 20s. Margaret and I are there for each other and lift each other up to ensure we both are living our best lives!”

When we asked Saira and Margaret what advice they would give to vinas who are too shy to reach out, Saira responded: “The best piece of advice is to remember that the gals you meet are there for the same reason you are. Everyone I have met on Hey! VINA have been super sweet and personable. Start with just one friend date. Just one–that’s a victory in itself. Don’t put pressure on yourself or be critical if the friendship doesn’t pan out the way you expected it to. While it takes time, it is 100% worth it when you find a good gal pal! Building a good friendship with someone takes time and effort, but it feels so great to know that there is someone out there who is rooting for you at all times!”

And while one vina might be from out of town and one vina is a local, that totally makes for a great personal tour guide on your first vina-date!

“Our first VINA date was at my favorite bar in downtown Atlanta,” Saira recalls. “At the time, Margaret was new to Atlanta and didn’t know of a lot of places, so I suggested it (FoxTrot bar in Atlanta). We met up a few days before the New Year and just chatted about really everything. It turns out we had a lot in common. We had similar goals and interests. Our friendship is special because often times it feels like we are looking and talking into a mirror. We are similar in many aspects and it is nice to know that there is someone that understands me and knows what I am going through.”

Are you in the Atlanta, GA, area and looking for vinas to go hiking with? Well Saira & Margaret are looking to expand their nature-loving tribe! Start swiping and find them in your card deck! Click here to start👉

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