WHAT TO DO IF YOU’RE FEELIN’ A LITTLE LEFT OUT OF YOUR #GIRLGANG

One of the most rewarding experiences of being a vina is having your own group of gal pals that you can call your very own #girlgang. These are the girls that you do everything with. When you make plans it’s just a given that they will be there and you always have the best times with them. Having a close group of besties can be seriously fun, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve noticed how easy it can be to feel like you’re being left out of your girl gang. So what do you do when things start to seem distant?

COMMUNICATE

One thing you can do is just sit your girls down and tell them how you feel. Communication is key with any relationship and that includes your vinas! If you’re feeling left out, let them know. It’s perfectly okay to express yourself and how you feel about your friendships, especially with your besties. They might not even have realized that they had been making you feel left out so it may be up to you to let them know your true feelings.

SHARE YOUR CALENDARS

If conflicting schedules are making it harder for you to stay involved in events and be there for your weekly hangout sesh then keep a calendar with your friends to make sure everyone is available. I create calendars for the week or the month directly on my phone and send them to my vinas so the next time we’re looking to plan a girls day we know what everyone else is doing. Once you communicate that you’re feeling left out, this is an awesome way for all of the busy vinas to make sure everyone is still involved.

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GIRLS NIGHT

One of my favorite things to do is host my own girls night! There’s nothing more fun than having a classic sleepover like when you were in high school. Invite all of your vinas over for a friendship night. Get all of the snacks you can handle and definitely a few bottles of wine.  You can watch all of your favorite movies including your ultimate go-to movies from back in the day. You can also Pinterest some fun games or activities to do or just spend the night catching up. Your vinas are the ones you can depend on whether you’re talking some celebrity gossip or venting about work. A sleepover is the best way to get back in tune with your girl gang. When you’re feeling left out you can bring everyone together.

GROUP CHAT

If you don’t already have one, get a group chat going! If there is a communication issue keeping you from staying in the know or you’re just missing all of the get togethers then a group chat is what you need. Even on the days when you’re not hanging out you still get to keep your conversations rolling. Your group chat can help you make plans together, be a place to vent and will probably be filled with all the inappropriate banter that does not belong on Facebook.

It is completely natural to feel left out if the groove of your group is off.  Sometimes the fix is something as simple as making more time to be available for each other.  Other times you and your girls just need to recalibrate and have a fun night!  Your girl gang consists of the people that you care about most and will always be there for a fellow vina. So take the time to let them understand your feelings because no matter what, they will always be your girls.

Tag your #girlgang and comment below! 

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10 IDEAS FOR EASY CONVERSATION STARTERS

You swiped right and WOOHOO! You found a match and received the introduction message from Olivia. Now… how do you start talking to your new friend? Of course, you can easily start with “Hey! I’m (insert your name here). How are you today?” She responds telling you how she is and asks you the same. But this is where some of us get stuck. At least, I know I do, and I can’t be the only one!

It’s time to freshen up our conversations with our new vinas. We can easily escape the potential of the conversation dying quickly by taking things to a new level. Here are some of my favorite suggestions for how you can make your conversation with your latest right swipe more intriguing.

PRO TIP: Be prepared to answer what you ask her too, so you can dive into getting to know each other better right away!

WHAT ARE YOU PASSIONATE ABOUT?

I love using this one first because you can tell a lot about a person based on their answer. Animals, art, poetry, movies, craft beers/wines, food – the conversations you can begin off of this simple question know no bounds.

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE PLACE TO GRAB A DRINK/MEAL/COFFEE? 

This question steers the conversation towards meeting in person. A plus is that while you and your new vina are bonding, you’ll be able to check out someplace new! (Or maybe she says the same place you’re thinking of, you never know unless you ask!)

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SEASON/HOLIDAY?

This one puts a new spin on the overdone “____ weather we’re having, eh?”

WHAT IS THE BEST PIECE OF ADVICE YOU’VE EVER RECEIVED? 

I really like this question because it takes the conversation to a deeper level and you both can get some words of wisdom out of it.

TELL ME SOMETHING THAT MADE YOU LOL THIS WEEK

This one is a gentle icebreaker and keeps things light. Because who doesn’t love to laugh?

IF YOU COULD GO ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD RIGHT THIS SECOND, WHERE WOULD IT BE AND WHY?

We all have a little bit of wanderlust in our hearts – I really enjoy asking this question because you can find out where someone has been or where they’re dying to go one day. Who knows, maybe her fave destination is yours too!

WHAT IS SOMETHING YOU ABSOLUTELY CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT?

We all have something (or a few things) that answer this question. It’s similar to the common “what would you take with you on a deserted island” but bit more realistic for everyday life.

HAVE YOU EVER MET ANYONE FAMOUS? IF SO…WHO AND WHERE?  

This one always leads to an interesting story!

WHAT IS THE BEST BOOK YOU’VE EVER READ/CONCERT YOU’VE EVER BEEN TO/MOVIE YOU’VE EVER SEEN? 

I wanted to provide few different options with this question, because once you ask one, it’s easy to go right into the next to keep the conversation going.

WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST ACCOMPLISHMENT IN LIFE SO FAR?

This opens the door for your new vina to #ladybrag without feeling guilty. Chances are, she’ll ask you the same thing!

Now you have some great conversation fuel, hop on Hey!Vina and start swiping right to meet some new pals!

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NEW IN TOWN? HERE ARE SOME TIPS ON REMEMBERING NAMES!

Moving and being the new gal in town is never easy. There are a lot of exciting opportunities sure, but learning and remembering so many vinas’ names can be daunting. I’ve moved across the country twice (California to Maryland and Maryland to Colorado) so in this arena, I’ve got your back. Here are some of my favorite foolproof tips on remembering names!

EXCHANGE INFO

I’ve met some people who swap business cards, which is rad when it happens. One time, a woman gave me her calling card (a business card minus the business), and I thought that was pretty cool. Most of the time you’ll swap info via text message. What I’m getting at here is that one of the best ways to remember someone’s name is to get it in writing as soon as possible. With a text you get names and numbers while you’re still face to face, giving you a better shot at committing it to memory.

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BULLET JOURNAL

The best way to remember anything-seriously anything-is to write it down. If you don’t exchange texts right away, you can add their name to your bullet journal. I used to just pen things in my day planner, but since I’ve fallen down the bullet journal hole, I can’t imagine doing things any other way. One of my fave features is that you can set up an entire page dedicated to names and locations of new people you’ve met and then log it in your index. Easy reference, easy to remember.

LABEL YOUR PHOTOS

If you’re meeting someone through a mutual friend, at a play group with your kids, or even at a party, you can easily remember names by labeling your photos. All mobile devices offer a way to make notes or add labels to photos while they are still on your phone. Take that great group selfie and then in the notes, list the first names of everyone in the pictures. In one super-efficient move you’ve got a great group photo and an easy way to keep track of all the people you’ve met.

BECOME SOCIAL MEDIA PALS

The quickest way to keep up with people is to follow them on social media. Be it Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Snapchat you can easily remember names if you are social media friends. Tread lightly with this one, you don’t want to come off over eager since many people are careful with their social media. If you and your new vina click while chatting, and you’re both comfortable exchanging info, then you know you’re not going to forget names anytime soon.

AND IF YOU FORGET…

Be honest about it. Really. There isn’t anything to be embarrassed about if you forget someone’s name. In our nonstop world where we are expected to remember and do everything, it’s okay to forget something once in a while. In order to forget with grace, you’ve got to first admit it and be humble about it. People appreciate real. Plus, you’re less likely to forget a second time!

New in town? Well, start swiping and get out there!