With every new sports season comes a friendship challenge for many of us sporty vinas. Even for those who are not necessarily fans of football or baseball, sports at any time can breathe life into some of us. There’s simply something magical about being able to root for a team, to watch them play, and share your love with other fans.

But what happens when you can’t share your love of your team with your friends? In fact, what if your closest friend roots for your team’s arch nemesis?

First of all, relax. It’s not the end of the world! Part of celebrating our differences is recognizing that our vinas are all humans with their own unique interests, and that includes sports teams.

We may take our sports seriously, but if we have friends that cheer for our most disliked teams, we should be good sports ourselves. Here are a few things to remember when dealing with sports rivalries in a friendship:

Key word is friendly in the term “friendly competition.”

The teams on the field can sometimes be not-so-friendly when playing each other, but that doesn’t have to be the case with your friends. You can be friendly and competitive. Make friendly bets on which of your teams will win more games or win the playoffs. Start a fantasy league together. Go to a game where both of your teams are playing, and have the fan of the losing team buy the winning team’s fan a beer. At the end of the day, you’re still vinas despite the colors you wear.

Don’t take it personally.

Still, sports is competition and in competition, you need to have a thick skin. Trash talk comes naturally in a sports rivalry. It’s OK to rib on your friend’s team and it’s OK for them to rib on yours. Especially in the heat of the moment, some of us may say very negative things about the team, players, or even an entire fanbase. Remember that general negative comments have nothing to do with you. If you feel otherwise, ask your friend to clarify and try to calmly talk it out. When things do get blatantly personal, that can be a problem.


Try to find common ground.

If you’re both fans of the game and not just individual teams, it should be fairly easy to meet somewhere in the middle. Talk about players you like on the other team. Talk about other teams you both like. You can even talk about teams you both don’t like. You may disagree with your friend on their favorite team, but you may find that you actually share other sports-related opinions in common.

Respect the rivalry.

Sports rivalries are storied and to be respected — after all, it’s just one reason why sports can be so fun! If your rival team wins the playoffs, congratulate your vina because those moments are special for every sports fan. Even if it’s just a regular season win against your team, be a good sport. Share memories, facts, and insights of your team and the rivalry and learn from one another. Put yourself in your friend’s shoes and try to see the game their way, even if just for a minute.

Sports rivalries can be heated, but as long as there’s respect and understanding on both sides, they can make your friendship fiery in a good way. Keep representing your team and have fun!

Looking for a vina to talk sports with? They’re waiting for you here!


It seems just like yesterday that the country was buzzing about the presidential election of 2016. For many, there was hope that we would see the first female President of the United States in Hillary Clinton. However, there was also a bitter divide in our nation—about Hillary, about her Republican opponent Donald Trump, about the third-party candidates, about the issues at stake and the candidates’ stances on them. In the end, Trump was the one elected as the country’s 45th President.

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Since that fateful evening in November, a lot has happened in our country. We’ve seen discord within our own people and in our government and witnessed terrorism in a few forms. Issues like health care, immigration, and foreign relations have been front and center in our news cycle. No matter where you stand in the political spectrum, we all can agree that things have been overwhelming.

However, there have been some glimmers of optimism. Most notably, the Women’s March in January brought out an estimated strong 3.2 million people out on the streets to stand up for equality (And you can bet that we at VINA were among them!) It’s important to remember that our government works for us and we the people are their bosses. As citizens, we hold so much power than we think we do.

As we pass the one-year mark of one of the most heated elections of our lifetime, our voices and actions matter more than ever. If you’re looking to get involved in shaping the future of our country, it’s never too late. Here are some places to start.

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Resist Bot This nifty AI-powered tool allows you to text and message your Senators, representatives, governor, and President from your mobile messenger and Facebook messenger. Simply enter “Resist” and the bot will look up your officials based on your address and send a note to them based on what you write. Resist Bot makes it so easy and effortless to contact those in our government.

Indivisible is a movement aiming to fuel a progressive grassroots network of local groups to resist the Trump Agenda. The movement initiated in 2016 with the online publication of Google Doc written by Congressional staffers with tips on how to peacefully but effectively resist the move to the right in the executive branch of the United States government. They adopt Tea Party techniques, but wield them for good. Get involved!

Americans of Conscience After the election, Jennifer Hofmann feared for her rights. She also feared for the rights of her Black, Muslim and Latino friends. So, she created a checklist for Americans of Conscience. Sign up for the weekly newsletter to get clear and hype-free actions to support democracy, freedom and equality for all Americans. No partisanship. No yelling. No fear-mongering. No vilifying allowed.

Women’s March You may remember the pink knitted hats and the nearly 4 million women who took to the streets right after the election? We certainly do! But while the first Women’s March was the largest single protest in US history, it’s important to remember the movement continues today. Today, Women’s March is a women-led movement that works to provide intersectional education on a diverse range of issues. It also creates entry points for new grassroots activists. So grab a knitted hat, find a local chapter, and take to the streets today!

Emily’s List knows the importance of choice. They aim to elect more pro-choice women into office. Donate $2 $20 or $2000 today to ensure that women who believe in the power of choice get into office!

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It’s also important to never forget the power of calling, emailing, texting, and writing to your Senators and representatives! They have real power, but don’t forget YOU give them that power. So do your bit and hit them up today.

Know other ways to get involved and make a difference? Let us know in the comments section below! The country is waiting for you!


Many people love the fall for many reasons, and one big reason is that Starbucks finally unleashes their limited edition Pumpkin Spice Latte. The Pumpkin Spice Latte is a cult favorite of many coffee drinkers. Containing notes of cloves, nutmeg, and cinnamon along with its main flavor, the PSL is truly comforting. Drinking one feels like Halloween and Thanksgiving even when it’s not!

However, you may be like me in the sense that you don’t care about the PSL. You don’t get the hype, you don’t like the flavors, or you just prefer a different drink. If you’re not into the PSL but want to get into the fall spirit on your next cafe visit, take your pick from these five cozy hot drinks instead!

Salted Caramel Mocha

Coffee chains often serve up this signature drink along with the PSL come fall. If you’ve got a real sweet tooth, you can’t go wrong with chocolate and caramel in the same drink. Even more, there’s that little salty kick too! It’s like sipping a melted chocolate truffle—so rich and indulgent!

Cinnamon Dolce Latte

If you don’t like the taste of pumpkin but like cinnamon, this is your perfect drink. The Starbucks version uses a cinnamon dolce syrup and steamed milk and tops it off with cinnamon spice. Cinnamon is another flavor greatly associated with fall and bonus, it’ll take you straight into the wintertime too!

Maple Latte

This oh-so-simple drink is great all year-round, but its earthy sweetness feels especially cozy in the fall. Plus, the name alone makes us think of maple leafs, which is symbolic of autumn in itself.

Honey Latte

Raw honey is a great sweetener for healthy (And unhealthy!) recipes, but have you ever thought about putting it in your coffee? Five and Spice has an excellent recipe you can make at home with honey, nutmeg, espresso, and milk. If you don’t have access to an espresso machine at home or the office, ask your local barista to try their hand at making one!

Hot Apple Cider

Not a coffee drinker or just can’t have coffee at the moment? You can still get into the autumn spirit with a classic hot apple cider. It’s another cozy drink that holds well throughout the year, especially during the cooler months or when you’re feeling under the weather. To really get into the fall season, add some caramel or caramel flavor to the drink!

Now that we’ve listed some of our Pumpkin Spice Latte alternatives for the season, what are some of your favorites?

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If you just graduated from college, congratulations! The feeling of not having to attend class, work on papers, and study for finals is the feeling of freedom. However, it can also be confusing. When we’re settled in the same routines for a long time, it can be difficult to transition to a new one. We have a few ideas to help you create a new routine during your first autumn after college. We do encourage you to experiment and explore. After all, you have one less obligation now!


All of those all-nighters might make you feel like you’ve lost a lifetime of sleep. But because you no longer have papers and tests to worry about, you can sleep in a little more. Aside from getting more shut-eye, this fall is a perfect time to indulge in healthy activities. Think of new exercise routine, getting a massage, or practicing meditation. Take some time to unwind from those years of stress and make it a priority to take care of yourself.


Now that you have your degree, you can start looking for and actually applying to jobs that have that ol’ “Bachelor’s Degree Required” qualification. Your job search doesn’t even have to be related to your major— you can pretty much apply anywhere that sounds relevant to your skills and interests. As we mentioned before, it’s time to explore. Use your newfound free time to polish up your resume, fill out applications, and go to interviews.

Alternatively, you can go for internships, as most companies (especially larger ones) look for recent college graduates in addition to college students. Another work-related option to consider (even if you’re actively job-hunting) is asking your employer for full-time hours if you are currently working part-time somewhere. After all, extra money is always a good thing!


Speaking of extra money, you may want to use any new income on paying off student loans, bills, and other obligations in your new adult life. It’s also important to catch up with family and friends you might not have seen in a while. Catch up on passion projects or some house cleaning. Basically, get back in black and de-clutter your life.



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If you do happen to have some savings, reward yourself for all your hard work at school, and take a trip! Check a dream destination (or maybe two or three) off your bucket list or revisit a city or country you love. Go with your vinas, family, or sweetheart or fly solo! If you’re looking for a travel buddy, download Hey! VINA! If you’re on a bit of a budget, take a day or overnight trip in your city or somewhere close by. You’ll never know what new things you’ll discover!


Gulp. This can sound a bit scary, but some folks truly want to start from a clean slate right after graduating college—and that usually means moving somewhere totally new. You can do it too! Maybe you’re a Midwesterner and your dream job is in New York or LA. Maybe you’re just bothered by the cold winters where you are, and you want to live somewhere less cold. Maybe the cost of living somewhere else just works out better for you. If you want to start your post-college life somewhere new, opportunity will follow.


Wait, what?! All those years of exams, projects, and homework assignments, and you’re willing to take on more? Well, if you want to go for that Master’s and/or Ph.D., there’s nothing stopping you! If you want to continue learning but don’t want to spend another 2 to 4+ years back in school, check out a career school or a community college to master a new subject or skill. Even after we move on from our school days, we should always be learning— sometimes that learning might come from even more formal education!

What were your post-grad plans? Let us know what you learned in the comments!

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During your parents’ generation, it was probably the norm to have kids at a very young age. Your parents and their peers likely started their families straight out of college or within a few years of graduating. These days, however, the norm has shifted: The AP has reported that women in their early 30s are having more babies than women in their 20s, and this is good news for a lot of people.

According to data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), women from ages 25 to 29 had the highest birth rate for more than three decades, but that rate decreased last year. The average age for a woman to have her first child was still in the late 20s-range, at age 28. Data-wise though, the birth rate for women ages 30 to 34 was 103 per 1000, compared to 102 per 1000 for women ages 25 to 29.

These findings might not be so surprising, considering the increased cost of living and in turn, the increased costs of raising a family in this century. That’s a big part of why women are putting off having kids till later in life. Also, women in general may want to travel more, finish school. and/or accelerate their careers before settling down with kids. Emotional preparedness for parenthood is another huge factor for putting off having children till later.

In 2016, writer Rebecca Traister told NPR that women in the past were likely to marry and have kids earlier in life because they were dependent on husbands, who typically were the breadwinners in a household. “Now, thanks to a lot of the political battles that were waged in the mid-20th century, women have much more opportunity to earn on their own,” said Traister. “Though we’re still not close to equal pay, women can be economically independent.” Pretty wonderful to be in modern times, right? This sense of independence is also why more women are having children out of wedlock as well.

Aside from having more leisurely time and time to achieve educational, career, and other personal goals, women who have kids in their 30s may actually have a higher life expectancy. According to U.S. News, a study in the journal Menopause reported that women who had their last child after the age of 33 were twice as likely to live to age 95 or older than women who had their last child before the age of 30.

There also may be some benefits for children with older parents: U.S. News also quoted a study from the journal Population and Development Review. which basically found that kids with older parents were more likely to stay in school longer. They tended to do better on standardized tests and were more likely to attend college, compared to their peers with younger mothers. Additionally, a Danish study quoted in Glamour found that children with older parents were less likely to be physically disciplined and have less emotional and behavioral problems. People in their 30s tend to be more patient and stable, and that seems to carry over into parenting.

Another factor contributing to the shift is the ongoing decline in the teen birth rate. The CDC reports that the birth rate for U.S. women aged 15 to 19 was 22.3 per 1000 women in 2015. This is attributed to increased abstinence and birth control use. Because less women are having kids in their teens, they are likely to wait till later to do so.

With the continuous developments in contraception and fertility treatments, choices and possibilities can become realities for most women in determining their motherhood. From a health standpoint, it is still considered ideal to have kids in your 20s. According to Healthline, women in their 20s tend to have the lowest risk and fewest complications during the gestational period.

However, if you do plan on having children but aren’t quite there yet, just know you are okay where you are now—and once you do have those kids, the payoffs can be huge.

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You FaceTime them, snapchat, text, maybe you even email them (although, email seems to have made a pretty permanent transition into a sort of business only platform). You tell them all your deepest and darkest secrets and they’re one of the first people you talk to after a very good or a very bad day. There’s just one little thing that differs from all the other best friendships out there: you’ve never met them in person!

The Internet has become quite the landscape for making deep connections. Through social networking, forums, and mobile apps, we become more connected to people who share similar interests, hobbies, and life experiences. These connections can carry over into more intimate one-on-one interactions, which can develop into genuine friendships.

Making friends online is less taboo these days. A 2015 Pew Research study showed that 57% of teenagers have made new friends online; while only 20% of those teens have met these new online friends IRL.

Online dating has been gaining even more popularity within the last few years with the ease of swiping right or left on dating apps. So there is no reason why online friendships shouldn’t work the same way. Of course, when it’s time to take the friendship offline, it should still be common sense to take precautions.

One golden rule to always keep in mind is to first meet in a highly populated, public place. If you’re visiting from far away, don’t plan on staying with this online friend; crash at an Airbnb or hotel (or somewhere your mother would feel sure you’d be safe). If your friend is visiting you from far away, kindly offer them suggestions for places to stay—don’t have them stay with you until you can be absolutely certain that they’re legit and when you feel comfortable having them over while you sleep (eek).

Meeting online friends offline can make for great memories and can be an excellent launching point for even stronger friendships. However, it’s not always possible, and that’s okay.

From personal experience, I’ve been lucky enough to meet so many people online through pop culture fandoms and social networks; I’ve been able to grow even closer to some of them in real life. But there are some that I have yet to meet, and others that I probably never will. That doesn’t keep me from still calling them my friends.

In short, if someone can meet their soulmate online, it’s certainly possible to meet your best friend there too. There may be some people who won’t understand, but as long as you’re feeling the connection, online friendships can be as real as offline friendships.

And who knows– these online friendship can become the best offline friendship of your lifetime!

If you haven’t already… Download the Hey! VINA app to meet some more friends online and then turn them into your very best vina.

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Rough can be an understatement when it comes to our obligations. School or work often take up the biggest chunks of our days. After going to class, there’s homework, studying, projects, papers, and maybe even extracurriculars. For those of us that work, we sometimes bring even more work into our homes after the day at the office is over. We constantly monitor our emails or maybe stress out over our side hustle. Maybe you’re even going to school while working part-time or full-time. On top of that, there’s family, friends, relationships, and errands to tend to. It’s like there’s never enough time in a day just for you!

That’s why some folks tend to take a day (or maybe two or even a few) off of work or school to just take a break. You can do it too! No, you won’t be committing a moral crime (However, timing is everything. We also know that not everyone can take a break—more on that later.) In fact, taking a break can be good for you. Time off from work or school will give your body and mind a chance to reset and bounce back from all the stress, so that you can come back more relaxed and focused. That’s why vacation days and school breaks exist – everyone needs a little time to recharge.

You need that relaxation in order for you to feel happier and more productive, both in and out of the workplace. In turn, that happiness and productivity can benefit your teams and your managers. “When we’re worn out, we can lose our patience and perspective, which can lead to poor performance and poor communication—nothing your boss rates high on the list of employee attributes,” women’s career coach Kathy Caprino told Shape. So there’s definitely a bigger cause to root for when it comes to taking a break—it’s not just about you!

When you think “day off,” you may think about binge-watching Netflix and eating your favorite snacks. While those things may be fun and may make you feel more relaxed, it’s better to indulge in healthier activities. Suggestions include a few more hours of sleep, exercise, meditation, spa day, arts and crafts, or spending time with a family member or friend. Basically, think about what makes you feel less anxious and make it part of your plan.

It’s important to be mindful when thinking about taking your break from work or school. You definitely don’t want to do it when a project deadline is nearing or when midterms or finals are up ahead. Try to take your time off after these things occur or when your schedule isn’t filled with critical events.

Finally, we know that not everyone can afford to take time off from a job or taking classes, for financial reasons and others. If you are not able to do so, remember to find time for yourself in other ways. Take some time to meditate in between homework assignments, or take a walk around the park during your lunch break. There are always opportunities to keep yourself sane and centered—don’t be afraid to take them. You need them, and you deserve them!

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Most of us have to work to live, but many of us don’t like the feeling of being at a desk all day long. Luckily, there are plenty of opportunities out there that will allow us to be active and/or exercise our creativity, and get paid for it too!

If you already have a job, these are also great opportunities to make some supplemental income. Read on for a few ideas.


The digital age has enabled people to fetch a car and get groceries and meals delivered at the touch of a button. Companies like Lyft, Postmates, and Instacart not only make these services a reality for customers, but also for contractors looking to make some money on their own time. The on-demand service industry continues to grow, so if you’re up for driving and/or picking up and delivering food, it’s always a good time to do so.


If you’re bitten by the creative bug and have art and crafts to sell, opening up your own Etsy shop is a great way to make a profit. You can sell anything from apparel and candles to stationery and party decorations. What a way to make your mark on the world, and some cash too!


Love animals? Make some furry friends by pet sitting and/or dog-walking. Use Craigslist and Indeed to research any openings at your local doggy daycares, pet hotels, and dog walking (Yes, they all exist!). Also, register on sites like Rover and Wag for opportunities. Bonus: If you don’t have any pets of your own but adore animals, you’ll love being around other people’s pets as part of your daily routine!


You definitely have a Facebook friend or two who’s constantly posting about the skin care products or makeup they’re selling. Sometimes they’ll even send out calls-to-action to join their team. Like it or not, direct sales is a successful $30 billion industry, and that’s only as of 2013. Its biggest champions especially love the freedom of setting their own hours and working from home. So the next time you see that Facebook friend posting about their products and you’re interested in them, it won’t hurt to find out a little more about how the company could fit into your life. A few worth checking out include Rodan + Fields, LuLaRoe, and Younique.


If you’re the friend in the group always mixing up the drinks at parties and get-togethers, you may want to consider making it a paid gig. While taking courses can be useful, you’re better off learning on-the-job. Cosmopolitan suggests that you may start off as a barback if you haven’t bartended professionally before, but that’s one way to get some training. And once you get behind the bar, you’ll be raking in those tips!


Are you a certified yoga instructor? Do you know a foreign language? Do you have a knack for baking gourmet desserts? Well, you can turn your expertise and passions into money by teaching your crafts to others! If fitness is your thing, keep an eye out for instructor/trainer openings at your local studios and gyms. For everything else, looking at your city’s Parks and Recreation department is a good place to start. Verlocal is also an excellent resource.


Concert venues, theaters, and stadiums are always looking for people like you! There is a continuous need for ushers, security, and ticket/concession sale representatives. If you prefer to work behind-the-scenes, find out if there are marketing opportunities available. Depending on your role, you may even catch a glimpse of the action. Imagine being amongst the audience at a sold-out Beyonce show and not needing a ticket—are you intrigued now?!

What are some of your suggestions and experiences? Tag a vina and comment below! 

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Maybe you landed a gig at your dream company, or maybe you’re starting your own. Maybe you’re looking for a change in location, culture, profession, all of the above, and/or more. Maybe you’re going back to school or taking a long break to travel. Maybe it’s just not working out.

Whatever your reason is for voluntarily leaving a job, you’ll want to make sure you exit with grace and gratitude. Your work history will follow you wherever you go, and you don’t want to have to explain why you don’t have any references from one job. Moreover, if it’s possible you’ll return to a job, you don’t want to hurt your chances for a rehire because you didn’t stay in touch or you rubbed your superiors the wrong way. So, how do you not burn bridges when leaving or preparing to leave a job? Here are the three Golden Rules:


Sometimes a start date at a new job is non-negotiable, but if you are able to, try to coordinate a date that allows your current employer plenty of time to transition. Two weeks is standard for most jobs, though a one week notice is doable at others. If you’re at a small company or the only person performing specific duties, it is definitely wise to abide by the two-week rule. In any case, telling an employer you’re leaving today or tomorrow could hurt your boss, your team, and yourself. Plan as far ahead as you can if you need to leave a job, and everyone will benefit in the long run.


Make sure to stay in touch with your manager and any other colleagues with whom you worked closely. If you can, try to gather personal email addresses and phone numbers in addition to work information. Then, actually take the time to send them a message. Lauren Berger a.k.a. the Intern Queen recommends keeping in touch with your professional contacts at least three times a year. Chances are you’ll need to contact these people for references or introductions to people in their networks. If something is to go amiss in your new role or venture, you might even want to connect about rejoining the company. However, Lauren says it’s important to get into the habit of reaching out just to say hello. Why? You want people to remember who you are and to cultivate strong relationships in your professional network. So give it a try!


Whether your boss was way too much like Meryl Streep in The Devil Wears Prada or you were getting paid in pennies, it’s understandable that you’d want to vent about your previous or soon-to-be previous job. However, airing out that dirty laundry digitally is not the way to go. Even if you aren’t connect with coworkers on social media or you’re only sharing a status with certain groups or lists, anything can be screenshotted or cached nowadays. Not to mention, privacy settings can be flawed. The last thing you want is for your boss or coworker to find out that you’ll be leaving your job by way of Facebook post or Tweet and possibly, that they’re the reason why. Talk about awkward! If you truly need to tell someone about how badly you want out of your job or just can’t wait to share the good news of your next professional move, do it offline and in private to a trusted friend, family member, or partner.

Got any tips on keeping in touch with old employers? Let us know in the comments!

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Craving to frolick with some furry felines? You may be in luck if you’re near a cat cafe. Yes, it’s as heavenly as it sounds: You get to eat, drink, and play with kitties! The concept originated in Asia in the late 90s (With the opening of Cat Flower Garden in Taiwan) and the trend has been catching on with the rest of the world. After all, cats are dominating not just our hearts, but the globe!

If you and your new vina love cats, there’s no better way to fulfill that adoration by making a date at a cat cafe. If you and/or your vinas don’t have cats of your own, visiting a cat cafe is a wonderful way to get your kitty fix. Even if you are lucky enough to own a cat (or maybe even more than one!), it doesn’t hurt to make a few more happy with your company. Additionally, spending time with cats can be great therapy. Just imagine the amplified benefits when you can get your human friends in on the fun too!

For more serious cat fanatics, you may even be able to adopt a cat you’ve connected particularly well with. Many cat cafes partner with rescue organizations and shelters to showcase adoptable cats. Who knows, maybe you and a vina can be our next VINA success story and adopt BFF cats!

Every cat cafe offers its own unique experiences, but one thing’s for sure: Cats and humans alike will purr in delight! Check out KitTea in San Francisco, Purrington’s Cat Lounge in Portland, Meowtropolitan in Seattle, Blue Cat Cafe in Austin, Denver Cat CompanyMauhaus in St. Louis, Crumbs and Whiskers in D.C. and Los Angeles, Meow Parlour in New York, or find one in your city!

For our vinas outside of the US and those planning to travel abroad, check out these international cat cafes, including these cafes in Tokyo and in Europe.

Have you ever been to a cat cafe? Is there a cafe we should add to our favorites list? Share your experiences and suggestions in the comments!

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