I think there’s a stigma against the women who just do have no interest in being in a relationship. We’re taught at such a young age through rom-coms and pop songs that when boy meets girl, girl will “finally” be complete. I think, however, that this notion is a load of crap.
I’m 20 years old. I have things to do, people to see, places to travel! I don’t want to tie myself down to another person. Why shouldn’t I be selfish for this one point in my life when I have forever to tie myself down.
I am proud of my ability to be able to navigate around the city without relying on a man to guide me, and I am proud to be able to feel a sense of freedom when doing so. Not having someone by my side 24/7 is okay.
This isn’t to say I’ll never get married. In fact, I do eventually want to settle down and start a family. However, I see this point of my life as a time to be free and to be me.
As someone who has succumbed to themes from Serendipity, 10 Things I Hate About You, She’s All That, and other cheesy ’90s rom-coms for the entirety of my life, I want to make it clear that I’m over that stage. Completely. I’m not constantly searching for “the one” — I am going to become the best version of myself, and I know “the one” will naturally fall into my trail when the time comes.
This is my time.
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