I don’t really know how to start off one of these open letters, but I’ll do my best because I have a lot I want to tell you. I know that we don’t talk as much as we used to and there are many miles, an ocean and a continent that make it hard for us to grab a cup of coffee to catch up. We get angry with each other sometimes, which helps mute our conversations and desire to actually want to talk to each other. We both have matured into new adventures; yours is starting a new chapter with many exciting journeys, and I can’t wait for you to tell me about them. You’re serving in our military following your parents’ footsteps, and you’re achieving that moment where you can anchor your roots to find out where you stand. I’m in Scandinavia, expanding my family which makes me think back on all the relationships that have helped me get to where I am today.
You are, by far, the most significant friendship that has helped me shape who I am. Like I said earlier, we get into arguments where sometimes we don’t speak to each other for days, weeks, months, and even for two years that one time. We have mutual friends that shared our successes with each other, but we have come back. Apologizing and growing to become better friends which in turn, helped us become better women. We share a lot of memories together because we are that close. Yes, a few bad ones, a sprinkle of weird ones, but a ton of great ones. Looking back at our relationship, I don’t think I have actually taken the time to thank you for all the things you have done for me. You were there during my dark pits of depression, encouraging me to get out of bed when I would stay there for weeks at a time. You checked in on me for my mental health and in those moments you saved parts of me I didn’t think I wanted. When I didn’t have a place to stay, you and your family welcomed me into your home, offering me shelter. You knew of my insecurities about having a plus-size figure and encouraged me to accept myself and recognize my self-worth. The foundation that you helped lay down for me to be comfortable with myself is still here, more alive than ever.
Sometimes, growing up bums me out. I wish we were back in high school in Okinawa where we were able to hang out all the time. Where life was so much simpler. Growing up with you and having you in my life helped plant my feet into who I wanted to become. You were there when a lot of people didn’t want to be, and some of those people were family. I wish my vocabulary was vast enough to express how thankful I am for you. I knew that some women have great friendships to the point where they feel like sisters toward one another. I once foolishly thought, “how ridiculous” —but you are a sister to me; not through blood, but through this bond we created. I’m so incredibly excited for what the future has in store for you, because I know it’s going to be fantastic. I hope we can grab that cup of coffee soon.
With all my heart,
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