The thing about a toxic person is you’ll never see them coming. They pose as your friend, your confidant, and your trusted companion. The toxicity is not something that is on the surface level or easy to spot. It is something beneath the deepest layers of that person’s soul that targets the weakest and most trusting parts of yours. They might not show you their toxic nature right out of the gate or all at once. They can mask this side of themselves with clever lies and manipulation for years. Because of that, you might have a toxic person in your life, but you might not know it just yet.
WHAT IS A TOXIC PERSON?
- A toxic person will make you believe that everything they have done to damage your relationship, or damage their own life, is your fault.
- A toxic person will lie to you about the things they told you and when there’s nothing left to lie about, they’ll make something up.
- A toxic person will come back to you every single time. It doesn’t matter how many times they leave, or how long they stay away, they will always come back for more.
- A toxic person has nothing if there is no source to draw energy from. In order for them to convert your compassion or trust into toxicity, you have to allow them to plug into your power source.
- A toxic person will talk poorly about everyone but you. . . to your face. Remember that.
- A toxic person will never be wrong. Ever.
- A toxic person has no backbone. They will please the person they are with to avoid exposure of their true colors.
- A toxic person always has an agenda. You are mistaken if you think it’s not one that serves their own personal best interest.
- A toxic person will make it their life’s mission to turn the whole world against you if you don’t play by their rules, so your best bet is to not play at all.
It won’t happen like a high school movie where everything is petty and underhanded. It will happen gradually, deeply, and will go on for so long that you won’t notice it until this person is someone so important to you that you couldn’t possibly believe they would ever hurt you. A person like this is unaware of the world outside of their own needs. You need to know that it is OK to separate yourself from this kind of behavior. It is actually essential to separate yourself from this kind of behavior and set boundaries.
It’s hard to let go of people you’ve grown to love, whether it was a short relationship or someone you loved your whole life. However, what you have to realize is, it’s OK to take care of your own mental and emotional welfare. Letting people emotionally exhaust you is not taking the high road or being the bigger man. It’s an abuse of vulnerability, and it needs to be exposed. If this person is suddenly saying all the right things, apologizing, taking the blame, breaking down in tears or promising they’re going to change, promising they’re going to get help, and swearing they recognize their own toxicity, what they really recognize is that they’re losing their grip on you, and that is when you run. Letting go of the old will only make room for the new positive life you so deserve to live.
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