Everyone has heard the expression, “You’ll never get a second chance at making a first impression.” Although it’s a groaner, there’s definitely some truth to it.
Sure, you can change your mind about someone and
vice versa, but that takes time and energy on both parties’ parts. So why not just slay it from the start? Whether it’s a first romantic date or a first vina date, nerves are totally normal. So here are some easy ways to succeed at sometimes not-so-easy first impressions:
I know what you’re thinking: cliché much? But it’s true. If you’re trying to form a true connection with someone, the initial interaction cannot be filled with lies and false impressions. Your friends should like you for who you actually are, not who you think they want you to be. Yes, be your best self, but still be yourself.
PAY ATTENTION TO BODY LANGUAGE
It’s easy to say flowery things and woo with words, but why not keep this cliché trend alive and point out that actions speak louder than words. To truly appear engaged and interested in a conversation, you must be mindful of your posture, mannerisms, eye contact, etc. Plus, it’s proven that good posture boosts your confidence. It’s a win-win!
This might seem superficial at first, but your clothing and hygiene can actually be a huge indicator of, frankly, how much you care. Your ensemble doesn’t need to be MET Gala material, but throw on a cute sundress or try out a fun up-do to show your potential new vina that this date is important.
Known for Cady-Heron-style word vomiting? Try your best to keep it to a minimum when meeting someone for the first time. It can be so easy to babble on about yourself when you’re nervous, but instead fill the silence with genuine questions about the other person. They’ll leave feeling special, and you’ll leave feeling like you know if they’re friend material.
FIND COMMON GROUND
However, it is acceptable to talk about yourself when it’s about something you two have in common. This could be about something as simple as both having binge watched Jane The Virgin or something much deeper and more personal, such as sharing the same faith. With this connection comes rapport and ultimately, hopefully, a lasting relationship.
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