It’s just a fact of life, that not every person you meet is gonna be one of your people. You know, one of those people who truly gets you, with whom conversation flows easily, and laughs come often.
When it comes to Hey! VINA, we usually say that if it’s good on paper – erhm, on the app – it’ll be good IRL. But the truth is, it’s hard to gauge chemistry before you meet up. And sometimes that first meet-up is going to be fun, but it’s also going to be the only meet-up. That is totally okay, but it can be a little bit of an awkward situation to navigate.
Here are 3 possible reasons your potential bestie turned out to just be a friendship one-night-stand:
THE ONE-WAY STREET
Sometimes, only one person will feel the budding friendship connection after your first vina-date. Whether you’re the one feeling it or not, it’s nothing to stress about. The best part about making new friends is finding people who you have a connection with – and if that’s not happening on your part, or their’s, it’s better for both of you to move on to the next! Keep that in mind if you have to decline a second meet-up, or if you’re the one getting declined – either way, being gracious for the opportunity to meet someone amazing is the best you can do!
THE CALENDAR SNAFFU
This one is tough – because no one means to be flaky, but sometimes we all get busy AF. After the first successful meet-up and then a few subsequent texts like, “Ugh, I’m the worst! I’m so busy. Next week??” It might be time to move on and find someone with a more compatible schedule. If you’ve never read the “Let’s Get Drinks” article from The New Yorker, now is the time. 😂
This one is the worst. Ghosting is never the best option IMO. It might be easier for the ghost-er, but it certainly causes the most confusion and potential hurt feelings for the friend who gets ghosted. If you simply never hear back from a vina after the first meet-up, try not to take it personally. There are so many reasons someone may have ghosted you – none of which have anything to do with how amazing you are!
Whatever the reason is, don’t sweat it! There are literally thousands of other potential besties waiting to meet you on Hey! VINA, all you gotta do is swipe right!
(Featured image via @brunapetrillo)