Whether you’re hitting the beach or on your way to a wedding this Memorial Day weekend, all vinas know how awkward it can be if you’re the third wheel. We’ve all been there: your vinas have significant others, their significant others want to tag along, and all of a sudden what was supposed to be a girls’ trip turned into a couples’ vacation. And you might find yourself, at the moment, very uncoupled.
Even if you hang out with your vinas’ SO’s on the regular, third wheeling for a whole weekend is tough. Sometimes it feels like you need a survival guide just to be the single friend. Fortunately for you, I have been the single friend many times. And I recently survived a weekend trip as a certified 7th wheel.
Here are my biggest tips:
1. DON’T DRAW ATTENTION TO IT!
Walking into a bar and yelling, “Does anyone want to pretend to be my boyfriend so this is less weird for me?” does not, in fact, make anything about the situation less weird (I know, I tried). My number one coping mechanism in any situation is to joke about it, but I kind of wish I hadn’t joked about being single on the trip as much. For starters, I think my comments gave off a vibe that I wasn’t actually OK with being the only single friend, which might have added to the awkwardness. That, and my jokes definitely didn’t stop my friends from getting drunk and cuddly with each other by the end of the night — they sort of just made me feel more isolated.
2. SWITCH UP THE SEATING CHART!
All of your friends and their SO’s are going to try to sit next to each other pretty much everywhere. They won’t do it on purpose — it’s just something that happens when you’re used to going everywhere with someone else. I found that I actually had more fun when I subtly switched up the seating chart. Sitting in between couples can give you a chance to stop some of the couple-y inside jokes and PDA, plus let’s you feel less left out of the conversations. I got to know my one vina’s new boyfriend a lot more this way, too.
3. SUGGEST A SLUMBER PARTY!
If you’re all sharing a hotel suite or an AirBnB, it can be awkward when all the other couples go to their individual rooms and leave you alone. But the good news is that the point of the trip all along was to spend as much time with your vinas as possible. Suggest that the SO’s all go and have a night out together while you and your besties have a night in in the living room. It’ll give you a much-needed break from all the couple activity — and if you’re in close quarters, it might give your vinas a necessary break from their SO’s. Everyone wins!
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