I was never one of those kids who went around acting like I was “too good” for something. I have always had a tendency to wear my heart on my sleeve.
If something interests me, I can’t contain my excitement. I’m like a little kid getting all hyped up because tomorrow is Lunchables Day! That uncontrollable giddyness that is so closely associated with kids – yeah, well, I still have that.
If something doesn’t interest me, try as I might to muster up enthusiasm, I can’t do it. Thankfully, it goes relatively unnoticed to anyone around me, but deep inside I can’t shake the feeling that it is tough lying through my teeth.
Throughout time the lines seem to have been blurred between what is acceptable behavior for young adults when it comes to showing excitement, and what is lame.
We have all seen movies where somebody asks their crush out on a date and for a split second their unabashed enthusiasm is bared, only to be caught a second later and smoothed back down like a bad combover. They realized they sounded excited and immediately had to try to reverse things because apparently excited = uncool.
Now, I’m not sure when this mentality really took over, or why it did, but I can tell you, it isn’t how I’ve gotten through my 24 years on Earth. Nor would I recommend it for anyone else living their life.
I always though it seemed like a miserable way to exist. We as humans already have to train ourselves to surpress so many emotions. Even if our world is crumbling, we still have to wake up, head to school or work, put on a brave face and make it through the day. We have to mask our pain, sorrow, anger, distain and even our genuine happiness. All the work that goes into hiding something that should be expressed, is exhausting.
Not only is it tiring to always seal out your emotions, but it can also affect your relationships with people. You can only spend so much time acting like your not interested in others and casually doing your own thing, before it catches up to you. Folks will eventually learn not to rely on you, and not care to talk to you. This can put you at a huge disadvantage in the job market and in the overall life market. I mean honestly, who wants to be around someone who always acts like they just don’t care about what’s going on?
Acting uninterested in things can just be a phase, and for most teenagers and young adults, that’s the case. Growing out of it, is vital though. I can’t stress enough how important it is to let your loved ones know how much they mean to you. It’s absolutely critical that those who you care about see it reflected in their interactions with you.
Remember, ” A heart is not judged by how much you love, but by how much you are loved by others.”- L. Frank Baum, The Wonderful Wizard of Oz
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