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WHY GIVING A S*** IS ACTUALLY COOL

I was never one of those kids who went around acting like I was “too good” for something. I have always had a tendency to wear my heart on my sleeve.

If something interests me, I can’t contain my excitement. I’m like a little kid getting all hyped up because tomorrow is Lunchables Day! That uncontrollable giddyness that is so closely associated with kids – yeah, well, I still have that.

If something doesn’t interest me, try as I might to muster up enthusiasm,  I can’t do it. Thankfully, it goes relatively unnoticed to anyone around me, but deep inside I can’t shake the feeling that it is tough lying through my teeth.

Throughout time the lines seem to have been blurred between what is acceptable behavior for young adults when it comes to showing excitement, and what is lame.

We have all seen movies where somebody asks their crush out on a date and for a split second their unabashed enthusiasm is bared, only to be caught a second later and smoothed back down like a bad combover. They realized they sounded excited and immediately had to try to reverse things because apparently excited = uncool.

Now, I’m not sure when this mentality really took over, or why it did, but I can tell you, it isn’t how I’ve gotten through my 24 years on Earth. Nor would I recommend it for anyone else living their life.

I always though it seemed like a miserable way to exist. We as humans already have to train ourselves to surpress so many emotions. Even if our world is crumbling, we still have to wake up, head to school or work, put on a brave face and make it through the day. We have to mask our pain, sorrow, anger, distain and even our genuine happiness. All the work that goes into hiding something that should be expressed, is exhausting.

Not only is it tiring to always seal out your emotions, but it can also affect your relationships with people. You can only spend so much time acting like your not interested in others and casually doing your own thing, before it catches up to you. Folks will eventually learn not to rely on you, and not care to talk to you. This can put you at a huge disadvantage in the job market and in the overall life market. I mean honestly, who wants to be around someone who always acts like they just don’t care about what’s going on?

Acting uninterested in things can just be a phase, and for most teenagers and young adults, that’s the case. Growing out of it, is vital though. I can’t stress enough how important it is to let your loved ones know how much they mean to you. It’s absolutely critical that those who you care about see it reflected in their interactions with you.

Remember, ” A heart is not judged by how much you love, but by how much you are loved by others.”- L. Frank Baum, The Wonderful Wizard of Oz

(Feature image via @uonewyork)

Truthfully speaking I never know what to write in these sections. I guess some highlights about me are that I dabble in just about all of the arts. You name it, I've tried it or am currently working on a piece of it. I've recently moved to Charleston, SC from NY, NY and I gotta admit I'm missing my home. However I am optimistic about what this new chapter might hold. I live with my boyfriend and am trying to get established in the Interior Design field. If something else came along though that caught my eye, I would probably have to run with that because my hobbies and interests are ever expanding.

6 comments on “WHY GIVING A S*** IS ACTUALLY COOL

  1. I’m delighted to see I’m not the only one who feels this way! If I didn’t express my emotions, I would feel like I’m being dishonest with myself and others, and it especially irks me when people conceal excitement and displeasure. It can be very difficult to navigate social circles and friends when they aren’t truly expressing themselves because they want to appear “cool.”

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    • swiertori18

      No, you’re definitely not alone! I honesty think more people wish they could express themselves. However we live in an age when people, both men and women have to learn to conceal their emotions so as not to seem erratic, obnoxious, whiny, etc. Women have to deal with stereotypes of being shrill and over emotional and men always have to fight the stigma that is “real men don’t cry.” I wish people were aloud to express themselves more openly and I try to lead by example, though at times that can be very difficult .

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  2. This is a freaking great read! I’m the person who contained my excitement and emotions for so long, that I didn’t even know how to express myself when it came time to. I have noticed a dramatic change in my relationships in all aspects of life, and you painted a clear picture of how that can happen so perfectly. Thanks for your sharing your forthright ideals. This is very encouraging!!

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  3. This is a freaking great read! I’m the person who contained my excitement and emotions for so long, that I didn’t even know how to express myself when it came time to. I have noticed a dramatic change in my relationships in all aspects of life, and you painted a clear picture of how that can happen so perfectly. Thanks for your sharing your forthright ideals. This is very encouraging!!

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    • swiertori18

      Thank you so much! I wrote it during a time in my life when I’m struggling with my relationships with people. I’ve always been a bit of a clam when it comes to letting others know how I feel. I can’t exactly hide my emotions on my face but I have never been very outward with telling people I dislike how they treat me. I’m finally getting better at not only expressing but also vocalizing my emotions. I’m glad this hit home for you and anyone else. We tend to feel like we are going through life by ourselves and so it’s easy to forget that others are experiencing the same issues we are. I hope your life continues to change for the better because of this. Even if it doesn’t always feel like it’s changing your life, it might very well be changing others. Thanks for reading and the discussion! Best of luck out there in this wild world ❣️

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