There came a time in my life when I realized that old friends grow apart. What once was a bond so tight you would need a tea towel to unscrew it, has now been left open for too long. The taste is gone. It no longer felt like home. Long telephone calls wilted into quick hello’s in DM’s, and nights out turned into short interactions on Facebook.
Long distance made it difficult to keep in touch. Other, more important things like marriages and children kept us busy and new friendships introduced us to new interests and hobbies.
The friendship that once was is now just a sweet memory. Like an old book on a bookshelf, you’ve read it and it has taught you so much. But you know the ending. It is always the same. And though you may love it and probably will never stop loving it, the time has come for you to read new books and to learn new things.
Enter the new BFF. Every girl needs a bestie. A ride or die who doesn’t judge your ish. That one person who has your back no matter how crazy you get. Someone who can match your kind of crazy with their own kind of crazy, and then blend it all together to make a new kind of crazy that only the two of you can understand. And bonding with her is the foundation and the true test of the BFF-ness levels this friendship is going to reach. But how exactly do you reach that point?
Let us, for the convenience of this article, call it BFF-Bonding-Club, BFFBC for short. Here are the rules to join the BFFBC.
THE FIRST RULE OF BFFBC: BE YOURSELF.
No-one likes fake people. And by fake, I don’t mean what social media has defined for us as “frienemies”. I mean be real. There’s no point in bonding if you’re not being yourself. Eventually the person you’re pretending to be is going to get tired, and the real you will be revealed. Plus, it’s proven that vulnerability is really the only way to get close to someone, so don’t be afraid to open up!
THE SECOND RULE OF BFFBC: DON’T FORCE IT
We’ve said this before, and we’ll say it again. If you’re good on paper, you’ll be good in real life! If you’ve matched with your new potential bestie on Hey! VINA, chances are you’ll be a good fit! Don’t force something with someone who’s vibes don’t line up with yours. It isn’t worth it!
LAST RULE OF BFFBC: MAKE AN EFFORT
You do not have to be together 24/7, but making time to hang out one-on-one is the only way you’re going to get anywhere with your new friend. If she’s meant to be your bestie, this won’t contradict Rule #2, making an effort will just feel natural.
A true BFF is someone who can make your day by tagging you in the perfect meme, fight your battles alongside you, and understand your brand of weird better than anyone else! Remember the rules of the BFF Bonding Club and you’ll take that friend to bestie-status in no time!
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