We all love our girls. They’re there for us through dance parties, new jobs, schooling, and everything in between. 90% of the time, we’re grateful for their presence in our life, and wouldn’t want it any other way.
But then… there’s the other 10%. You know those days–the ones where her questions are getting a little on your nerves, her comments grinding your gears, and her presence providing less than optimal vibes.
Yeah, the days when she’s straight-up annoying the s*** out of you.
You still love her, you’re still friends. To avoid conflict, your probably shouldn’t snap at her for risk of hurting her feelings and your friendship. Luckily, there’s some protocol in place.
STEP ONE: TIME-OUT
First things first, take a breather and assess the situation. Is your friend really being annoying, or is there some underlying cause to your annoyance that’s bothering you?
If it’s the former, move on to step two. But, if some self awareness has shown you that your short-nerves with your vina are due to a fight with your S/O or anxiety that’s higher than normal, check yourself, and then try to talk it out with her so she knows you’re on edge today.
STEP TWO: TAKE A BREAK
Now that you know your annoyance is probably IRL and not your stress manifesting, it might be a good idea to take some time (even a few hours!) away from your friend to keep yourself calm (and, uh, sane).
Once you’ve regained some chill, you can see her again.
STEP THREE: TALK ABOUT IT
If this has been happening a lot lately, it might be time to talk about it. A real friendship can stand a few doses of honesty. Sit down with your friend and talk to her about what’s been bothering you, especially if it’s because of comments that are hurting you, feelings of competition, or instances where you feel she’s pushed you aside.
What do you do when you’re at your wit’s end with a friend? Let us know below!