Do you ever have days when you tell yourself, “I’m gonna get my life together today”? C’mon, I can’t be the only one that does this! But #realtalk: I don’t think I’m giving myself enough credit, and I don’t think you’re giving yourself enough credit either!

I started to wonder why so many amazing vinas I know sell themselves short. Like, when did it become cool to embrace your inner train wreck? Did Amy Schumer start that trend? Or was it Jennifer Lawrence? Maybe Lena Dunham? At some point in the last few years, it became endearing AF for women to be flawed, messy, broken, self-deprecating, and “relatable.” Great news, right? We women finally get to be real and complicated! I’m not so sure…

I can’t help but feel like this “flawed AF” thing is a trap. Add it to the list of singular narratives that women are expected to fit into in order to be seen as whole humans. Since it’s just another confining cliché like girl next door or cool chick or guy’s girl, don’t but into it, vinas! Keep these things in mind, next time you start to sing the “get my life together” tune.

FLAWS ARE A SLIDING SCALE TYPE OF THING

Of course, we all have insecurities, but remember that you have way more strengths than flaws, so don’t focus on the latter! If there are things you genuinely want to change about yourself to feel more fulfilled (who doesn’t have those?), focus on the power you already have within yourself to do so!

YOU ARE A BOSS

Don’t get me wrong, I’m like a super feminist, bad b*tch, killjoy, but I still catch myself letting others take the lead in some situations, even when I know I want to. It’s tough to embrace the boss babe in us, but it starts with the #ladybrag! So whether you killed it on a work project this week, gave a fellow vina great advice last week, or have awesome plans with Netflix this weekend, give yourself credit for all that you do!

THINK OF YOURSELF THE WAY YOU THINK OF YOUR FRIENDS

Honestly, most of the vinas I know totally have their sh*t together! The other day I was telling my friend how she inspires the crap out of me for all that she does. This chick has a part-time job, an internship, is getting a Masters in public health, and pursues painting. She amazes me, but she looked at me and said, “You do just as much!” We laughed about it because she’s kind of right, but I would never give myself that much credit.

Vinas, let’s be real—we’re all flawed! But let’s be realer—we’re all amazing, too! So instead of embracing this self-deprecating trend, let’s embrace the #ladybrag!

Join us in lady bragging, vinas! And tell us in the comments, what makes you a boss b*tch?

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