Remember the days when barhopping and clubbing were, um, fun? The days when you couldn’t wait for the weekend to arrive so you could dance your troubles away and get into all sorts of shenanigans. Welp, I’m just gonna come right out and say it—I’m too old for that sh—ahem, those shenanigans.

Of course, I love my vinas, but sometimes I really just want to stay home with my cat—okay, cats, I have three—and just Netflix and chill, literally. It’s not just me, right? Going out is the worst, #amiright?! I have found that I just don’t have the tolerance for pushy crowds nor do I have the funds for pricey drinks. I know you feel me, vinas, but there’s an important distinction. It’s okay to outgrow your friends’ shenanigans, but it’s not cool to be a total Debbie Downer. So if you’re like me and you love your friends but hate the outside world the whole party scene, do what I do!

VINAS’ NIGHT IN

Sure, there are some people who love socializing and meeting new people and dancing and the whole bit, but let’s be real: hanging out at home with your friends as if you’re back in middle school is still tons of fun for everyone. So, if you’re not about to go out, plan a slumber party because you’re never too old for a slumber party, kay?

DON’T BE A FLAKE

Honesty is super important in friendship. I’ve told my girls I’d come out with them and bailed last minute with some bullsh*t excuse. I know, not cool. But I learned my lesson. Here I am talkin’ about how I’m too mature for this partying stuff, and I’m not even mature enough to be straight up with my friends. Since it’s really annoying to be on the receiving end of a flakey friendship, just be honest!

TAKE THE BULLET SHOT, TEQUILA SHOT THAT IS

Obviously some of us aren’t cut out for going to a show or club every weekend, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do! Like I said, be straight up with your vinas when you’re not feeling it, but when it comes to the important events like birthdays, take the bullet, dress up, and show up.You had it in you before, so going out for the sake of a vinas’ night out will not kill ya! We can Netflix and chill with our cats next weekend.

Alright, what’s the lamest excuse you’ve given your vinas when flaking? Tell us in the comments!

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