You swiped right and WOOHOO! You found a match and received the introduction message from Olivia. Now… how do you start talking to your new friend? Of course, you can easily start with “Hey! I’m (insert your name here). How are you today?” She responds telling you how she is and asks you the same. But this is where some of us get stuck. At least, I know I do, and I can’t be the only one!
It’s time to freshen up our conversations with our new vinas. We can easily escape the potential of the conversation dying quickly by taking things to a new level. Here are some of my favorite suggestions for how you can make your conversation with your latest right swipe more intriguing.
PRO TIP: Be prepared to answer what you ask her too, so you can dive into getting to know each other better right away!
WHAT ARE YOU PASSIONATE ABOUT?
I love using this one first because you can tell a lot about a person based on their answer. Animals, art, poetry, movies, craft beers/wines, food – the conversations you can begin off of this simple question know no bounds.
WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE PLACE TO GRAB A DRINK/MEAL/COFFEE?
This question steers the conversation towards meeting in person. A plus is that while you and your new vina are bonding, you’ll be able to check out someplace new! (Or maybe she says the same place you’re thinking of, you never know unless you ask!)
WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SEASON/HOLIDAY?
This one puts a new spin on the overdone “____ weather we’re having, eh?”
WHAT IS THE BEST PIECE OF ADVICE YOU’VE EVER RECEIVED?
I really like this question because it takes the conversation to a deeper level and you both can get some words of wisdom out of it.
TELL ME SOMETHING THAT MADE YOU LOL THIS WEEK
This one is a gentle icebreaker and keeps things light. Because who doesn’t love to laugh?
IF YOU COULD GO ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD RIGHT THIS SECOND, WHERE WOULD IT BE AND WHY?
We all have a little bit of wanderlust in our hearts – I really enjoy asking this question because you can find out where someone has been or where they’re dying to go one day. Who knows, maybe her fave destination is yours too!
WHAT IS SOMETHING YOU ABSOLUTELY CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT?
We all have something (or a few things) that answer this question. It’s similar to the common “what would you take with you on a deserted island” but bit more realistic for everyday life.
HAVE YOU EVER MET ANYONE FAMOUS? IF SO…WHO AND WHERE?
This one always leads to an interesting story!
WHAT IS THE BEST BOOK YOU’VE EVER READ/CONCERT YOU’VE EVER BEEN TO/MOVIE YOU’VE EVER SEEN?
I wanted to provide few different options with this question, because once you ask one, it’s easy to go right into the next to keep the conversation going.
WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST ACCOMPLISHMENT IN LIFE SO FAR?
This opens the door for your new vina to #ladybrag without feeling guilty. Chances are, she’ll ask you the same thing!
Now you have some great conversation fuel, hop on Hey!Vina and start swiping right to meet some new pals!
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