What’s a girl supposed to do to get a date when half the world’s buried in their phones? Even the best of us have found ourselves intrigued by the world of right-swipes and super likes. In the world of modern (AKA, internet) dating, there’s a lot of uncertainty. We’ve got to worry about catfishing, ghosting, and now… breadcrumbing?!
You read that right. Bread crumbing is the new dating term, and although you might not know what it means, it makes a lot of sense. Basically, breadcrumbing happens when you match with that super-cute guy or gal, hit it off, continue the convo, and it never really seems to go anywhere.
They keep feeding you little “crumbs,” Hansel-and-Gretel style, but never make any promises. There’s no date, although there may have been mention about “seeing a movie one day” or “grabbing coffee sometime.” Without fail, it never happens. But for some bizarre reason, you keep talking. WTF, right?
But if you stop and think about it, it’s probably happened to you. You get a little too excited because you’ve matched with one person in a sea of hell no’s who might be compatible with you, and then… nothing. Think a littler harder. Wait–you’ve done it too? You’re chatting with a match and the convo’s going pretty smoothly, but you’re just feelin’ meh. So you don’t act on it, but you’re kind of bored at work and keep chatting anyway
Yeah, yikes. Don’t feel too bad, though, because apparently it’s so common its got a name now. And, it’s got a sister-term, too: benching.
Benching is basically the breadcrumbing of relationships. Ouch. Suddenly your S/O isn’t answering calls, making dates, or bothering to show up. Luckily, for situations like that, we’ve got our vinas to back us up, lift us up, and eat lots of chocolate with.
Have you ever been breadcrumbed, or done the breadcrumbing? Let us know in the comments below, and join the community by downloading Hey! VINA on the app store. We promise not to breadcrumb you.
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