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SHOW UP OR SHUT UP: WHY FLAKINESS HAS GOT TO GO

C.S. Lewis once said, “Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art…. It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival.”
Lately, the importance of friendship has been a recurring theme in my life. It’s been the topic of several sermons, in my study guide readings, and the focus of many memes. So you can guess that I wasn’t at all surprised when I started reading a Huffington Post article about friendship. According to the article, sometimes you just need someone to show up for you, and I couldn’t agree more. The article states that a true friend  will not only be there for the fun times but will also be there when things aren’t going your way.

Wendy of Dearwendy.com talks about all the obligations that we have as adults. She claims that the older you get, the less time you have. Although this is true, I’ve always been a firm believer that we can and should make time for what we value. We need to decide who is important to us and make the time to show up for them. I think a big problem is that we often misdefine showing up. We need to update “showing up” to include “being there” for someone. Your vinas know that you’re busy because they’re busy too. Sometimes a simple phone call is enough. As a society, we’ve lost the accountability of acknowledgement. Sometimes people just need to know that you think of them, that they haven’t been forgotten.

I find that sometimes I’m really excited for an event and then become utterly exhausted  by the time it rolls around. I’ll procrastinate on everything leading up to the event  so that I end up being late. Ironically, these are usually the events where I have the most fun, and make the best memories. They are also the times that I refer fondly to, as “the best night ever.” I can guarantee that if you just show up, nine times out of ten you won’t be sorry! And what is more, your friendships with your vinas will grow.

Friends make life worth living. So get swiping’ and  find a vina to show up for. 

(Featured Image courtesy of Urban Outfitters Instagram) 

About bellayana

oh heyyyyyy!!! nice to e-meet you and welcome! try and keep up, okay! i talk fast like true new yorkers should. bella is just a nickname that i've lovingly/ begrdugingly adopted to save people embarassment when they butcher my name, illyana, and i give them the face. what's the face? i've been told i have RBF so i assume it's that. This place is the inner workings of my mind which I so lovingly call crazy town. I'm a deep thinker to a fault so this blog will run the gammet on the emotional scale as well as the superficial, i.e. fashion and beauty. Let's get to know each other! can't wait to talk to you all! bella/illyana

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