Yesterday I phoned with my friend Johanna, who is spending 6 months teaching in Spain in a college rotation (well actually we sent tons of WhatsApp audios back and forth). She told me how much she was enjoying her sister’s visit, but that she was having mixed feelings about it too. While she really appreciated the company after being apart for so long, she also started to feel kind of annoyed from having to spend every single minute with her sister.
“She just can’t do anything alone!”
“It was so much different when I went to visited you in Madrid”.
Johanna and I are very good friends, and what I appreciate most about our friendship is how completely open we are with each other. Of course we treat each other with kindness but if either of us is being ridiculous, or if we have opposing opinions about anything, we simply express ourselves to one another. That’s why when I went to Madrid last month and she decided to join me for the weekend, I was super excited to have her. We didn’t put too much effort into the planning. I had my own expectations: I planned to see my brother and visit my college friends, I also wanted go to this concert… Meanwhile, she expected to sightsee Madrid, as she never had been there before. Since I lived in Madrid for seven years, I really did not need to visit Plaza Mayor or El Prado, unless there was something particularly interesting going on.
When the weekend arrived, we stayed together at my brother’s apartment. We made a great combo because we both got what we wanted out of the trip: she did her thing and I did mine. Of course we still shared breakfast and lunch, and we’d go out in the evenings and go shopping together. It was great that we were open about doing and enjoying things independently.
This brings me to the following: if you are planning to host a vacation for one of your vinas or just planning a trip together, there are a few things to consider.
How well do you know each other? Do you both have the same expectations from the trip? Are you both independent and mature enough to cope when things don’t go as planned? Do both of you understand that it is okay to have time for yourselves?
A trip together is a fantastic way of getting to know each other and can be so much fun. However, you want to avoid potentially awkward moments by making sure the person you choose to adventure with is the right vina for you. Also, just because you are the host doesn’t mean that you have to be the “entertainer” the entire time, #amiright?
Somebody once told me that the best way to get to know a person is taking them out of their comfort zone. So, go ahead and take a trip with a vina and explore outside of your comfort zones, but do it right! 🙂
Haven’t met the right vina to adventure with? Start swipin’ to meet the a fellow adventurer!