Did you meet someone when you weren’t really feeling your A game? Were you crampy and crabby, and got a speeding ticket on the way there? Were you just awkward and forgot your name or said something slightly offensive because you didn’t know their sense of humor yet? It happens to everyone, really. So if you think you made a bad first impression, how can you amend it?
CALL IT OUT
Let the other person know that you had your crazy out that day, that you weren’t feeling it, that you’re sorry but you don’t feel like she met the greatest you. Can you make it up to her? Coffee on you next time? Without the call-out you never give them the option to reconsider that you might be a brighter or better you next time. Don’t sweep it under the rug.
MAKE IT QUICK
Sometimes it’s not just you, the energy between two people doesn’t quite jive. Maybe that’s what happened. With something quick like a coffee date, you can best assess if this is something worth pursuing again.
Whatever it is that sent you off kilter last time, don’t let that happened again. Eat some food, go to yoga, take a nap, listen to Bob Marley or Queen, whatever gets you right. Be sure you take the time to do that. Your energy is everything.
Apologize again when you meet up and then totally and completely let it go. Don’t mention it again, don’t worry about it or compare your next encounters. Just move on. It’s really the best thing you can do. Wipe that slate clean and give your friendship the start it deserves.
And don’t be too hard on yourself! Like I said, it happens to all of us.
Have you ever had to amend a bad first impression? Tell us in the comments!