So you’ve decided to join Greek life, that’s great! Or maybe you’re still just testing the waters a bit and doing some research, that’s great too! I’m going to give you a few tidbits of advice that I wish I had known before joining a sorority.
TAKE DAY 1 OF RECRUITMENT WITH THE PROVERBIAL GRAIN OF SALT
Let’s just say formal sorority recruitment is hectic… and even that is an understatement. Sorority women prep for formal recruitment the same way you’d prepare for a major presentation at work or in class. We know that first impressions are everything so we’re going to put our best foot forward and we expect the same of you. Now with that being said, the point of recruitment is (obviously) to recruit new members so we’re going to make ourselves look as appealing as possible. However, don’t take every sorority you meet on the first day at face value. I don’t mean that the women you meet aren’t genuinely nice and fun (they probably are!), but keep in mind we are trying to seem as appealing as possible, especially on day one.
ACCEPTING A BID DOES NOT MAKE YOU A SISTER (YET)
One of the most common misconceptions I’ve seen in PNMs (potential new members) is that they believe that accepting a bid means they’re 100% in and they can go ahead and order all the sorority merchandise their little hearts desire. Once you accept a bid, you are a new member, but that doesn’t mean you’re officially a sister. You can’t really go to Greek events or order letters to wear around campus just yet, you have to earn it.
IT’S NOT ALL RAINBOWS AND BUTTERFLIES
Sororities are all about sisterhood, but let’s be honest here, no sisterhood is perfect. Nine times out of ten you will LOVE being in your sorority and be grateful for all the wonderful women you get to call your sisters. But that one time out of ten, you will wonder why you even joined a sorority because being in a room with 50+ girls and trying to get organized in any way can make any person want to rip all of their hair out occasionally. A bit of advice for those moments – think about how life would be if you had never met any of your sisters and chances are you’ll be right back in that nine times out of ten mindset.
IT WILL QUITE LITERALLY CHANGE YOUR LIFE
Okay, maybe you have heard this one before. Chances are this is one of the lines you’ll hear during recruitment, too, but I’m going to elaborate a little bit on how being in a sorority can change your life. First and most importantly, you’ll have a built-in support system for any problem you may have. From wanting someone to eat lunch with, to needing a ride from Long Island at 4am because calling uber is too expensive, your sisters will always be there for you. Second (and also very important), the networking opportunities in and out of college are practically endless! Say hello to amazing internship opportunity, job interviews, and organizations that you may not have had access to before.
IT’S AMAZING, BUT IT’S NOT FOR EVERYONE
I don’t mean this in a, “Not everyone can be us,” snobby sorority girl way. I mean that if you accept a bid, or even if you become a full-fledged member, and then decide it’s not for you, it’s okay to walk away. It’s important to follow your gut if you’re not 100% positive that you’ve found your home in a sorority (or Greek life in general). Maybe you’ve realized that the sorority you pledged isn’t your best match, or maybe you’ve realized that Greek life as a whole isn’t for you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. The point of a sisterhood is to support you and elevate you to be your best self and if the friends you’ve made during the whole process are your true friends, they’ll continue to support you even if they can no longer call you their sister.
Trust me, this knowledge is SACRED and will save you a ton of trouble come recruitment. Whether you’re rushing or not though, the most important thing is finding a community of women to surround yourself with and support you. And maybe a sorority is the perfect community for you!
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