We’ve said it once, and we’ve said it again: vulnerability is the #1 secret to creating deep, long-lasting friendships. Though it may be scary, hiding a significant, intimate part of your identity from your vinas may block a friendship from reaching a meaningful level. It’s your decision, of course. If you do decide on coming out (no matter what your sexual identity), there are a few things to keep in mind:
CHOOSE THE RIGHT FRIEND
Choose your most supportive and positive friend first. While it’s likely all your friends will be supportive, it’s helpful to know that this vina is guaranteed to shower you with warmth and love. Telling her first will ease your nerves for the friends that might test your comfort level.
EXPLANATIONS NOT NECESSARY
You don’t need to explain the why or the how. Just that you are what you are! State the facts, and don’t feel the need to explain. However, if you want to educate and share more details, feel free to do so, too.
KNOW THAT NOTHING WILL CHANGE
Coming out may feel like a huge deal, and it is! To your friends, it might not be breaking news. Your true friends won’t care about your sexuality. They’ll find joy in you confiding in them. If you’re freaking out about sharing, just try to remember your real friends won’t even think twice.
Be proud to be who you are. If anyone disrespects you or looks down on you for sharing your true self with them, they aren’t worth having as a friend in the long run. Surround yourself with vinas who love and support you and have pride in who you are!
Do you have any tips for coming out to your vinas? Let us know in the comments!
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