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HOW TO SURVIVE LONG-DISTANCE FRIENDSHIPS

When my two best friends showed up for my college graduation from far away, I was the most grateful for them than I had ever been. Relationships, whether platonic or romantic, will always test you. Maintaining a long-distance friendship is one of those tests. When you and your friends survive the tests, it’s a wonderful feeling knowing you were all there for each other no matter how hard it got. My friends and I have been long distance for five whole years! Here’s what I’ve learned so far:

LET YOUR VINAS KNOW WHEN YOU’RE NOT OKAY

A common mistake in relationships is that both parties assume each other is a mind reader. Also, even if your friend doesn’t believe you when you say “I’m fine!”, she may not want to force you to vent your frustrations. If you don’t want to reveal too much, try saying: “I’m not ok right now, things are rough, but I appreciate you asking!” This shows your gratitude while giving your friend an opportunity to share her feelings. You are never alone in your struggle. Let your friends help you. You are not a burden!

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📸:: Julia Noni for Teen Vogue

PICK A YEARLY (OR MONTHLY) HOLIDAY TO LINK UP AND BOND

Birthdays are holidays, too! Surprise your best friend for her birthday to wish her well as she enters a new year of her life. New Year’s Eve and Memorial Day Weekend in the US are also memorable holidays to spend with friends! They won’t keep you away from family for long, and those days are automatic off-days for schools and jobs. Part of maintaining a friendship is learning what works for the both of you.

MAKE FACETIME/PHONE APPOINTMENTS

Life can get so hectic. Sometimes our schedules can overpower our intentions, and days will pass by before you remember that you wanted to text or call a friend to see how she was doing. Find one day out of the week that works, and have a long venting session with your friends. Being updated on your vinas’ lives helps to forget about the distance.

CREATE A MEMORY/MOMENTS JAR

Grab a small jar, tin, or box, write down happy or funny moments on a piece of paper, and save it. We often have the best stories to tell our friends, but by the time we’re able to talk to them, we forget! Save yourself the headache of trying to remember, and keep these moments written down. It makes for great conversation, and can uplift a friend when they need a laugh.

How do you maintain your relationships with far-away vinas? We want to hear your stories in the comments! (Feature image via Luxurious Spots)

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3 comments on “HOW TO SURVIVE LONG-DISTANCE FRIENDSHIPS

  1. Wow this is a great read! Yesterday, I was just thinking about how I missed all of my friends and how things aren’t the same. I wasn’t sure what to do but I like these suggestions!

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