Without a doubt, proximity cultivates a certain kind of friendship. Naturally, you spend a ton of time together when your best friend lives nearby—not just parties and dinners but the in-betweens: sweatpants on Saturdays and hungover burritos runs. So, when your bestie moves away, it means changes for everyone.
It doesn’t mean the end of you bond, but there is new territory to navigate and some adjustments to be made. When someone goes from on the regular to out of the loop, it can be a little scary. All of a sudden, there is a big vina-sized hole where they once sat on your couch, a faint wine stain from one of your Friday nights.
We’ve got some tips for you on how to make sure both you and your friendship survive:
Take up a new hobby. Hanging out is a hobby. Yes, we swear by it. Instead of dwelling on how much time you suddenly have on your hands, keep busy with something new: yoga, ceramics, pickling.
You can’t replace her, but you can use this as an opportunity to invite someone new into your life. Um, it’s a good thing someone invented an app that helps you make new friends!
Just because she isn’t around the corner doesn’t mean that your council and love aren’t essential to her and her new life stage. In fact, she will probably need you more than ever.
GET GOOD AT FACETIME
Pop open that laptop and a bottle of wine, and watch a movie together or just hang.
TAKE SOME ALONE TIME
This is a great time to get back to you. We so often jam pack our schedule with outings and people we love, which is wonderful. However, there is goodness in spending time with you!
DON’T RUSH TO FILL AN EMPTY SPACE
While new friendships will form, there is no reason to cast the role ASAP. Give yourself time to adjust and for something fulfilling to bloom in the space.
Knowing when you’re going to see each other again will keep both of your spirits up and remind both of you that she certainly isn’t gone from your life. We recommend you visiting her new life for your first get-together as a sign of total support.