There comes a day when you want to arrange some playdates for your baby vina. Of course, you want her/him to have your superb social skills, so you are eager to start your child early on play dates.
Arranging play dates might come easy for you if you and your friends started having kids at the same time. You incubated together and watched each other grow in width and love, and your children are destined to be besties.
For the rest of us (like, being first at motherhood in your group), how do we decide who to seek out for play dates?
Here’s a few things to consider when seeking play date pairs:
SEEK OUT SIMILARITIES
Most of the time, I advocate for the joy of expanding your horizons. In this particular case, I am erring on the side of sames. When kids are involved, differences can get personal. Finding someone with a similar parenting approach or lifestyle choices can make things much easier. Why not reach out to other mothers who share your same motherhood ethos?
TRUST IS ESSENTIAL
You are a pretty good judge of character and should trust your intuition. Reach out to other mothers who make you feel at ease if they’re going to be around your child. It’s also a plus to find a trustworthy mom who can double as a quick babysitter in case of emergencies or date night.
This is a rhetorical (but also very real) question. Do you feel like you can be yourself (including your motherself) around this person. You don’t want to be walking on eggshells around anyone in your life, so why should this be any different?
SIMILAR SCHEDULES, CONVENIENT SPACES
Your schedules have to align, like stars or new job opportunities. This will become clear whether or not it’s possible for the two, or four, of you to meet up. Be flexible but not unreasonable. Try to meet at a middle place and time that works for everyone.
A FRIEND INDEED, A MOM IN NEED
A playdate for them means an adult conversation for you and potentially a new real friend. So, why not ask that acquaintance mom who you spot outside the coffee shop every morning or on your morning run? You kind of want to hangout with her anyway. The playdate can be a bonus!
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