Not to bring you down on this fine day, but let’s be real: Rape culture is a thing. It’s a very real, scary thing that we as women face on a daily basis. It means we have to be careful and look out for ourselves and other women because no one else is going to look out for us in the same way.
According to the National Sexual Violence Resource Center, 1 in 5 women are raped during their four years at university in the U.S. It’s not just rape and sexual assault that we have to look for a college parties. The vina buddy system can help protect against creeps, over-drinking, and/or peer-pressure of all sorts.
The world can be a scary place, which is why we unfortunately need to be prepared. For our ladies entering their first year of higher ed, it’s an exciting time that may or may not involve going to parties. Great! You should totally get out there, meet new people, and go to parties. But you should also have a system in place with your vinas to keep you safe.
There’s really only two things that are absolutely necessary for a successful vina buddy system:
CHOOSE THE RIGHT VINA
Your urge might be to choose your new roomie or that extroverted social butterfly living down the hall. Those would definitely be convenient choices. But try to be more strategic. The social butterfly will get you to the party, but ask yourself: will she be around when you’re ready to go home? Your best bet is to choose someone you can count on to care more about the overall safety of your little twosome than the party itself. This might be your roommate or floormate, but it might also be a vina from class or an extracurricular club!
Don’t be flaky! If you’ve agreed to make sure your vina gets home safe (and vice-versa), don’t ditch her no matter what happens. Even if you hit it off with the Cutest Guy Ever or have a winning streak in that game of beer pong – if she wants to leave, don’t let her go home alone. This is true for the end of the night, but also for during the party. Stick to each other as much as possible, help watch each other’s drinks, and keep the creeps away. If all else fails and that frat bro just won’t take NO for an answer, you can always try this:
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