Starting a friendship from scratch is always the hardest part. So, how do you start a friendship, strike up that initial convo that leads to the yellow brick road? We’re curious about the different sort of ways we introduce ourselves and what that says about the dynamic of friendship both in person and online.
Worried about coming off too strong? Or about how to compliment someone’s butt in yoga pants without being super creepy 👀? Some real-life vinas shared with us the hilarious moments and tricks that gave them the gusto to chat up a new friend.
OUR GIRL, ERIKA, SAYS…
“We should hang out. I’ll usually say this if it feels natural. A lot of the time I’ll see the same person over and over again at a coffee shop or a store, and that tells me we’ve got similar lifestyles or schedules.”
KRISTEN, GOES IN FOR THE COMPLIMENT…
“I like what you’re wearing. Not just because I like clothes but because I think a lot of women start a conversation with complimenting.”
CANDACE, FINDS A SAFE SPACE…
“My best friend and I went to the bathroom together at a party and she said, No one ever calls me. And I said, I’ll call you. That was ten years ago.”
AND THERE’S LARA, THE TRADITIONALIST…
“I use the tried and trusty: Come here often? It sounds cheesy, which works for me, but it’s truthful. Chances are we would have seen each other a few times and it’s only a matter of who says it first. I like being the open one. I’ll start a conversation with anyone.”
MEGAN ALWAYS USES A WINGMAN.
“I become friends with a lot of guys girl friends. If I’m working I’ll say, Hey send your girlfriend over here so I can buy her a beer she seems cool.”
KEEP IT WEIRD, APRIL, WE LOVE IT.
“I go for the random approach. Most recently I told a girl in line at a coffee shop that I absolutely hate raisins. She bought a muffin and made me try it. We sat down for coffee and turned out we went to the same college. Maybe it doesn’t always work like that but, the point is be you even if you are random.
NOW, HERE’S YOUR HEY! VINA TIP:
A great way to modify all of these stories into something that you could use on the Hey! VINA app is to translate them into questions. Be sincere and inquisitive. Ask your new match where her fave places are or where she likes to frequent. Or, you can ask her where to shop in the neighborhood or share something vital about yourself!
I think the moral of the story is be YOU.
Be the awkward, sincere, smoothie drinking, yoga skipping you that you really are. Any true potential friends will gravitate toward that. Keep an eye out for ladies who frequent the same places as you – whether it’s your local watering hole or preschool drop off.
Oh and one last thing… try looking for little things you have in common like an element of your personal style, having the same coffee order, or having matching notebooks (anyone else super excited to start using their Ban.do agendas?!). All of these can spark an initial conversation.
Share your own tips and success stories in the comments!